What to do if you don’t have a partner, but want sex right now?
At first sight, ( especially male audience), women cannot have such a problem. There are plenty of hungry men around. Call - anyone will make you happy.
But from the point of view of women, the situation looks much more complicated.
Even fatal beauties do not always manage to find themselves in a man's arms.
To easily receive sex, two components must be present:
- internal permission for sex
- the ability to seduce men
Internal permission is the acceptance that a woman, in principle, can feel sexual hunger. This condition is allowed for men, but for a woman the very fact that she “wants” causes discomfort. Somehow this is “ugly”, especially when there is no candidate nearby who is burning with desire.
« I'm completely down», «… What should I do now, impose myself on someone? O?" " there must be pride“—unpleasant thoughts fill the entire space and literally tie the woman hand and foot. It is especially difficult for virgins. They don't understand what's happening to them at all. The girls around are talking about marriage, serious relationships, discussing everything, but not sex. What if you are attracted to a penis? " Suddenly, I'm a nymphomaniac?»
So here it is. The first step is to allow yourself the desire itself. In any situation. The female body is created for affection, sex and pleasure. It's very natural to want sex.
Drive away thoughts about increased libido, hormonal surges and other “unpleasant” terminology. There's nothing wrong with you.
Let's move on to the second component. Suppose you have internal permission to have sex, and you always enjoy your arousal. But if you have no one to spend the evening with, it means you don’t know how to seduce men.
I recently received a call from a friend who moved to Moscow from another city:
« Anya, only you can help me, I haven’t had this happen, and I don’t know what to do. I really want sex. But I have absolutely no one here. Sports and masturbation do not help. There is a man at work who only adds fuel to the fire. He is a young alpha male, he turns me on terribly, says that I excite him, but does not offer sex. I even hinted to him about the hotel... but he didn’t react. And I’m already climbing the wall, ready to throw myself at any guy».
She has been living in Moscow for a year now. And during this time it would be possible to find not one, but several gentlemen. If you pay due attention to this.
Seduction is a whole process, you can’t teach it over the phone. To be able to make acquaintances in any situation and seduce exactly the one you want is a skill acquired with experience. To attract a large number of men, you need to always be in a state of flirtation. Men dream of female attention. Therefore, wherever you are, be open to contact. Smile, compliment, play. When your phone is full of contacts, you will find a partner for the evening.
But what to do if you find yourself in a situation like my friend: there is no partner, but you want sex?
There are several options.
Go to an express dating evening. Plus: you will meet a large number of men in an hour and can immediately go on a date with someone. Minus: the date may not end with sex, because the man may not have the time, place or readiness.
Go for an erotic massage. Plus: you are guaranteed to get masculine energy. Men's hands will give you a full body massage, which in itself is very beneficial. And if he is a pro, and you establish trusting contact with him, you will be able to experience an orgasm from his caresses. Minus: if you want penetration, then it’s not a fact that it will work out. Erotic massage therapists have their own ethics.
Visit a swingers club or swingers sauna. Plus: for a hungry woman, this is a good option. There are always fewer girls in such places than men, and you choose with whom to have sex. Sex is guaranteed. Minus: the atmosphere itself, unusual for a single woman, and a large number of men can confuse and disrupt your own sexual mood.
If, after reading these options, you have an unpleasant feeling inside and a lot of objections: “ no... it's gone»…, « I'm shy», « what if no one wants me», «… But can a woman offer sex herself?? and so on. This means that you don’t yet have internal permission to have sex. And it is key.
In any case, you need to accept the woman in you and act.
My friend went for an erotic massage. Then she called and thanked: “ I felt so relaxed" Well, to your health!
Your physiological and sexual needs may manifest through several symptoms that discourage your desire for sexual contact and incredible new experiences.
Lack of sex has physical and emotional manifestations, whether you are aware of them or not. This basic human need goes much deeper than the pleasure it brings, as it also plays an important role in health and wellness.
For various reasons, some people try to suppress sexual desire and feel embarrassed about it, while others feel free to take advantage of every opportunity to have an unforgettable new experience.
In any case, if you live for a long time without sexual activity, your desires become obvious through a set of behavioral signals.
List of signs that your body requires sex
Are you having trouble sleeping? Sex stimulates the secretion of a hormone known as oxytocin, which is very important for good sleep.
When a person does not engage in sexual activity for a long time, sleep problems may result.
Irritability and stress
Mood changes, especially at work and among friends, are likely an indication that your body is craving sex.
Obviously, this isn't the only reason you might be stressed or moody. But if several weeks or months have passed since your last sexual intercourse, the risk of negative emotions such as irritability, pessimism and sudden mood swings increases.
It is important to understand that sex helps improve your mood. You can try to ignore it, but it is a physical and emotional need that cannot be suppressed.
I just want to make love.
To some degree, we all have fantasies or dreams about sex; they usually occur at night or under the influence of a specific stimulus.
But when such fantasies become more frequent or occur at different times during the day, it is a clear sign that your body is craving sex and increased sexual activity.
skin loses shine
It may be hard to believe, but sex can actually improve the appearance of your skin. When you have frequent sex, the pores open up and release impurities that can cause blemishes.
Obviously, there are beauty treatments for this, but just like any other physical activity, sex helps eliminate toxins through sweat and increases blood flow.
If you notice that your face has lost its natural glow and has more pimples or blackheads than usual, it could mean your body is crying out for sex.
you become less sociable
Lack of sexual experience can even lead to social isolation. This happens because your body produces less endorphin, a hormone that promotes a good mood and a desire to be around other people.
physical discomfort
Do you get headaches more often than usual? Lack of sex leads to a decrease in the secretion of serotonin and endorphin - “happy hormones”, which are known to reduce sensitivity to pain.
insecurity
I don't think anyone will love me yet.
Sometimes when you stop having sex, you may feel insecure about yourself and everything you do.
Sex improves self-esteem and makes men and women feel wanted and cared for.
When you don't have this experience, personal dissatisfaction arises, which can lead to depression, anxiety and difficulty making decisions.
dangerous feeling of loneliness
It's terrible to be alone.
Be careful! When you feel lonely, you're more likely to make bad decisions, especially when it comes to sex.
If you haven't had sexual activity for a long time, feelings of loneliness may push you to do the following:
- You decide to call and get back together with your ex-partner.
- You are having sex with someone close: a friend (or girlfriend) or a colleague.
- You accidentally have sex with a stranger you meet at a party or at a bar, especially after a few drinks.
- These can be bad decisions with potentially negative consequences, although this is not always the case.
Female beauty, about a woman’s health and her family happiness
Recovering from an unsuccessful relationship, or being in a long and so far unsuccessful search for love, we may be left without sex for a while. However, there comes a time in any woman's life when she really wants sex. I want to feel dizzy, feel pain, have cramps in the lower abdomen. And how offensive it is if at this time there is no loved one nearby who is able to satisfy this attraction. There can be many reasons for this: someone’s husband is on a business trip, someone had a quarrel with their significant other, well, someone was simply unlucky and she has not yet met the one and only one. For us women, unlike many men, give spiritual intimacy along with physical pleasures, otherwise everything loses its meaning.
And how difficult it can sometimes be to cope with your body, to make it calm down and stop tormenting you with your desires. What to do? Some will say that you can find a short-term hobby on the side in order to relieve stress and restore balance of spirit. But for many girls and women such advice is unacceptable; they are principled: either love and sex, or nothing. Well, or at least love, trust in your partner. What to do if this is not the case?
Consequences if you don't have sex for a long time.
The first thing you need to do is to realize that your sexual desire is not a whim, but a real need of the body. This is how we are designed: our reproductive function makes itself felt, and sometimes at the wrong time. Well, besides, no one has yet canceled the benefits of sex for women’s health! This includes rejuvenation of the body, absence of headaches, relief of menstrual syndrome, and reduction in the likelihood of stroke. You can continue for a very, very long time.
Meanwhile, we forget that sex is not just a way to satisfy physical needs, but also the best cure for life's adversities and mental wounds. Having opened up sexually, a person will have an extremely difficult time experiencing the absence of sexual relations. And even if you don’t notice that you are “going crazy” without sex, over time the consequences of its long absence will be reflected in one way or another: due to the cessation of massage of the female internal organs, which occurs during lovemaking, their dysfunction appears. Over time, it can contribute to the development of neoplasms in the uterine cavity.
PMS becomes more pronounced, and menstruation itself becomes more painful.
A faithful companion of a woman who goes without sex for a very long time is sudden mood swings, which for some can develop into prolonged depression and apathy towards life. Resistance to stress decreases and fatigue increases.
The consequences of not having sex can vary from woman to woman. This is due to the individual characteristics of the body and lifestyle. The most common consequences of not having sex for a long time are:
- Fibroids are a benign tumor that most often appears in women who go without sexual intercourse for a long time;
- Painful premenstrual syndrome. If there is no sex in a woman’s life for a long time, then menstruation is much more painful - pain in the lower abdomen, mood swings, excessive appetite appear;
- Menopausal disorders;
- Possibility of uterine bleeding. Physiologically, sex massages the uterus. If there is no sex for a long time, then the uterus is deprived of this massage, which can lead to various disorders;
- Excess weight. It is known that during sex a woman loses a large number of calories. Sex can be compared to jogging or intense exercise on a machine. A woman who does not have sex for a long time is more prone to problems with excess weight.
At the age of 35-45, most women experience a period of increased interest in sex - peak sexuality. It is during this period that women need sex more - having sex provides an attractive appearance, energy and interest in life. Lack of sex at this age entails the most unfavorable consequences. According to psychologists, if a woman at the age of 35-45 does not regularly have sex, then on a subconscious level she takes additional problems and tasks onto her shoulders. This, in turn, entails stress, fatigue, and dissatisfaction with life. In such women, age-related skin changes quickly appear and their appearance deteriorates.
As scientists have proven, the beneficial effect that orgasm has on the human body cannot be replaced by anything. In addition to the dizzying pleasure, reaching the peak, men and women are faced with the following:
- The heart rate increases, due to which the lungs are ventilated and the cardiovascular system is strengthened;
- Endorphins, released into the blood, save from stress, healing the nervous system;
- Hormones released at the moment of orgasm have a beneficial effect on the skin, making us younger and more attractive.
What to do if you haven't had sex for a long time?
Let's say you don't feel like you desperately need sex. You may not be able to live without it for very long. Then the following method is for you: since the absence of sexual relations frees up quite a lot of time and unspent energy, it is necessary to use them wisely.
Active mental and physical activity will become a kind of outlet, as well as self-improvement classes - fitness and self-care! There will be no time left for boredom, you will change, and I bet that the one and only will appear in your life!
If there is no sex for a long time, it is not at all necessary to run headlong into the street in order to catch the first suitable husband for carnal pleasures. To do so means to put your health at risk - both moral and physical. If you really want sex, but don’t dare to do frivolous things, then we will try to make a list of things that will help solve the problem just for you.
For both men and women, it is easier to compensate for the lack of sex through masturbation. It doesn’t matter which method of self-satisfaction you choose. The main thing is to get the release that a woman who has gone without sex for a long time lacks. According to statistics, a significant part of women have never felt a vaginal orgasm in their lives, but they get just crazy release during a clitoral orgasm. Why don't you join these lucky women who regularly get this pleasure? You are not going to advertise your occupation, and many women like to do this secretly. And it doesn’t matter that there won’t be a man nearby, affectionately and tenderly touching this intimate place - you can easily invent it yourself.
Just relax and try to reconstruct in your head the most impossible sexual fantasy that you have ever had. Or imagine the most passionate, most wonderful lover in the world. This could very well be someone you know or a superstar from a popular television series. It doesn’t matter who it is, because no one will ever know about your innermost thoughts, right? Therefore, feel free to settle down in a place convenient for you and start having fun. If you do this regularly, frequent headaches and an aggressive attitude, which prevents you from living a peaceful life, will disappear.
By the way, it is not at all necessary to do this with your fingers. If you belong to that category of women who, when self-satisfying, need the appearance of a partner’s presence, then try doing this in the bathroom or shower using a stream of water. You will be able to increase or decrease the pressure at will, being in the full feeling that it is not your fingers that are working miracles, but a gentle and affectionate man.
In this case, all preparation comes down to finally going to a sex shop and choosing a suitable “toy” for yourself. When meeting a man, we can never know for sure what shape and size his dignity is. Often, during the first sex, an awkward situation arises when our expectations are far from reality. This won't happen in a sex shop. The sex industry, aimed at creating various accessories for pleasure, works, as they say, “conscientiously.” The selection of dildos in all sizes, colors and textures is amazing.
Moreover, the dildo is far from the only item presented in any self-respecting sex shop. You can be surprised by the quantity and variety of goods for a long time, because sometimes at first glance you won’t understand why this or that thing is needed. But, if they are on sale, it means that someone really needs such an item - it probably helps a huge number of women or men overcome their loneliness.
For many women, ordinary masturbation is not able to satisfy that brutal hunger when they really want sex. They need penetration inside - deep, real. What to do, this is the nature of the female body! And when things don’t work out with men for some reason, they should reject shame and go on an excursion to the nearest sex shop. There will probably be something there that will help you cope with desire and get through difficult times.
If you are too shy, then approach the consultant only when there are no other clients in the salon. You don't have to explain anything to the seller, or pretend that you went there by accident. Friendly consultants will show, explain, and even let you touch everything without any questions. The sellers themselves have long been accustomed to the specifics of their work and will never judge you for showing interest.
No one will mistake you for a destitute loner who has “sank to such shame.” After all, there are a lot of married couples who buy sex toys almost in bulk just to spice up their sex lives. Who knows, maybe you are one of them?
If you simply cannot imagine a situation where you can talk with a stranger about such intimate things, then there is a way out for you: order a dildo or any other “toy” on the Internet. Thanks to numerous services on the Internet, this is easy and simple. Sitting at your computer in the evening, you can calmly look at absolutely all the products that are available in the online store. And if necessary, even ask a question, which will be answered and advised, providing all the information you need. Such sites guarantee complete confidentiality, so no one will ever know about what you received in a parcel by mail, including the postmen themselves.
No matter how pointless it may seem to you to do “this” not with your husband, but with a rubber device, but if you really want sex, then you should use this option. By the way, the era of rubber dildos is long gone. Now they are made from materials that feel indistinguishable from the originals. By spitting on your natural modesty and shyness, you may well get real pleasure that you haven’t experienced for a long time.
Did you know that during orgasm, a woman’s body releases special substances that are responsible for her charm? This is an absolutely accurate, scientific fact that does not require proof. You will not only feel better, but finally put an end to the protracted depression that constantly torments you: there will be a sparkle in your eyes, a good mood - and who knows, maybe at this very moment the man of your dreams will pay attention to you?
The third option is to force you to take care of your personal life. Otherwise, you will get tired of satisfying yourself in all possible and impossible ways, and you will simply take a vow of chastity. First, you will start chopping wood, like Celentano in the famous film, then work from morning to night in order to forget that you really want sex.
In fact, many people say that if you devote yourself entirely to any task, the passions in the body will subside and be forgotten over time. Some people fall into creativity, others into business. But this method can only help those who have a temporary respite in their relationship with a partner and just need to wait out the hard times. But what about those who don’t have any bright spots and don’t see a man in the next hundred years? And they urgently need to learn how to build relationships with the opposite sex.
First of all, you need to tidy up your appearance. Until now, women were “met by their clothes,” and nothing has changed yet. Then he will appreciate and understand your gentle, subtle mental organization. At the very first stage, you should interest him as an attractive person with whom he wants to spend time and who is not ashamed to show to his friends.
If for some reason you do not have the ability to transform yourself, find a professional stylist, makeup artist, or hairdresser. Carefully study women's magazines - there is a lot of advice for those who do not know how to choose a wardrobe and dress beautifully. Perhaps you are already accustomed to yourself the way you are, and you don’t want to change anything about yourself. But try asking your very close and dear people who only want the best for you: is your appearance really attractive and is it worth changing something about your appearance? After all, most often women, exhausted by home life and daily worries, simply stop paying attention to themselves. Moreover, if there is no one nearby for whom you want to be beautiful and sexy.
Of course, your transformation requires certain financial expenses, but if the question arises and you want intimacy with a normal man, then do not spare money on yourself, your beloved. Otherwise, the following situation may happen: you are an old and lonely, quite wealthy lady who has both money and time to spend it. But, unfortunately, time will be lost. So mobilize your finances and change your appearance for the better so that not a single man passes by.
The second point in your search for the ideal man: sit at home less and be in public more often. Of course, you can find your soulmate on the Internet, but it’s too rare for such unions to be successful and lasting. Walk in parks, go to meetings with friends, visit restaurants - in a word, be wherever he can meet. If you want to change your life for the better and stop constantly suffering, then don’t wait for the weather by the sea and start taking action yourself.
Of course, you can say that your friends, who have wonderful men nearby, did nothing of this, and happiness itself came into their hands. But this is not always the case; sometimes you need to take the initiative. And who knows what your friends decided to do in order to pick up a suitable man - as a rule, such information is kept in deep secret.
If you spend a lot of time at work, and in your old company there are still the same familiar faces, most of whom have been happily married for a long time, do not hesitate to change your environment. Maybe not completely, but find a new circle of friends. It’s quite unpleasant to listen to your friends’ enthusiastic stories about their intimate lives when you yourself really want sex.
Thanks to new acquaintances, well-groomed appearance and the ability to communicate, you will finally meet a person who will not only solve your physiological problems when you really want sex, but will also become a true support and support. Isn’t this the happiness of a woman?
Source:
A woman's world
There comes a time in any woman's life when she really wants sex.
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Lack of constant sex, cause and effect!
It is no longer a secret to anyone that sex is not only the satisfaction of physical needs, but also a panacea for mental trauma, internal problems and experiences. Having experienced sex, a person experiences its prolonged absence from life extremely hard. Of course, this does not apply to conscious renunciation of sex. When making such a decision, a person directs all sexual energy to realize his goals. And after a short period of internal torment, a person achieves harmony for the chosen period. But more often in life forced abstinence happens. And no matter how hard a person tries to set himself up in a positive mood, anxiety and dissatisfaction uncontrollably burst out. The consequence of such violence against the body is the occurrence of physical and psychological disorders, which can lead to very serious consequences (problems).
- As a result of the complete cessation of massage of internal organs, which occurs during sexual intercourse, dysfunction of vital organs for a woman appears. Subsequently, bleeding and neoplasms in the uterus may occur.
- Exacerbated pain and apathy during premenstrual syndrome.
- Depression, nervousness and sudden mood swings, which often leads to neurasthenia.
- Decreased vitality.
- Increased fatigue.
- Impotence at a young age, resulting in decreased muscle tone. An erection is essentially a muscle tension in the groin area and, like any group of muscles, for the normal functioning of which it is necessary to undergo training.
- Increased irritability, depression.
- Early old age is physiological and psychological, the occurrence of which is inevitable with a passive lifestyle and weakened blood circulation, the task of which is to saturate the cells of human organs and skin.
- Sleep disorder.
If the above consequences of forced refusal of sex are not included in your life plans, it is worth starting prevention from the first days of restrictions on sex. Experts recommend doing sports. Sport helps keep your body in good shape and is an excellent way to relieve stress and provide psychological relief.
It has been proven that nothing can replace the beneficial effect of a person having an orgasm. As a result of the orgasm experienced in men and women, the following occurs:
- Increased heart rate, which promotes ventilation of the lungs and strengthens the cardiovascular system;
- Release of endorphins, relieves stress and strengthens the nervous system;
- During orgasm, hormones are released that have a beneficial effect on the condition of the skin.
For those men who want to remain faithful to their partners, but for one reason or another are deprived of intimacy, the modern sex industry has developed a number of products to solve this problem: masturbators, vacuum pumps, vaginas. In cases where the erection leaves much to be desired, you can always select all kinds of erection stimulants from the assortment, such as: penis rings, losso, prostate massagers and penile prostheses, which will save your relationship and maintain a normal psychological state.
For the female half, there is an incredible variety of intimate toys aimed at stimulating and gently massaging the uterus, preventing the development of tumors and other neoplasms. The following will help with this: dildos, vibrators, g-spot stimulators. Also useful acquisitions will be, if the sensitivity of the vaginal walls decreases: vaginal balls with a displaced center, anal toys, vibrators and anal jewelry that allow you to narrow the vaginal walls.
Couples turning to the windows of a sex shop can easily refresh their relationship and get to know each other a little more. Erotic lingerie, accessories and role-playing costumes for intimate games, erotic forfeits, sex furniture and accessories for BDSM supporters - all this variety can bring back former passion and intimacy to your home. Lack of sex is unacceptable in a person's life. As long as you have sex in your life, you are living a full, healthy life. And if you don’t have a partner today, you can maintain your health and joy of life by turning to SexTouch display cases.
The answer to this question seems obvious. If you want sex, you need to have sex! And that's it - the problem is solved. What if this is not possible?
For example, a person desperately wants sex, but cannot make his desires come true due to the lack of a permanent partner. And what if you really want to?….1. Find a partner for the night
In this matter, the main thing is to choose the right place and time. Dress to the nines, put on your makeup, take out your dusty high-heeled shoes, create a good mood and self-confidence and head to the local bar or club. Of course, in the evening. For men, it is enough to have a sparkling sense of humor and an irresistible smile. Alcohol in moderation will help you find the one or only person with whom you will spend the next night. However, this method is not suitable for everyone. Not everyone will receive mental and physical satisfaction from making love to a complete stranger. Are there any alternatives? What can be done to reduce violent desire? 2. Sports
Physical activity, according to scientists, helps to release sexual energy trapped in the body like nothing else. In addition, by running or cycling, you will be immersed in a completely different, no less interesting process. And a toned figure and sexy shape will most likely bring the long-awaited moment of lovemaking closer. 3. Chocolate
During sex, the human body produces a hormone of joy - endorphin, which brings unforgettable pleasure and a surge of vigor and strength. This is why people remain in high spirits after a “sweet” night. This hormone is found in chocolate. If you're feeling depressed, it's time to treat yourself to a delicious chocolate bar. Of course, it will not replace sex, but it will add pleasant colors and sensations to your everyday evening. In addition, you will have a reason not to deny yourself chocolate, despite various diets and rules. After all, you can’t live without joy...4. Erotic films
Films with explicit sex scenes will help reduce sexual desire, but for a maximum of one or two days. After all, you won’t be able to view such pictures every day, forgetting about household chores and other worries. The downside of sexual passions on the monitor screen is that they increase desire and cause envy, resentment, and in some cases even rage. But why not try once? 5.Cleaning
Do you really want sex? Do you feel like any more time and you'll explode? Great! Now take a careful look around and remember when was the last time you did a thorough cleaning of your apartment? Answers: “My place is clean” or “I clean all the time” are not suitable. Dust is generated almost every day, and any housewife will confirm this. Vacuum the carpets, wipe down the furniture and figurines, sort out your wardrobe and get rid of old things, wash the floor to a mirror shine and put things in order in the bath, toilet and kitchen. This way you will direct your strength and energy in a useful direction, and after cleaning you will hardly dream of nightly adventures. The above methods allow you to relieve internal tension, get distracted, release accumulated energy and passion, feel a taste for life, but... They do not deliver the true sexual satisfaction. Therefore, these recommendations can be called “first self-help”, but not a solution to this problem. Scientists have not yet found a drug that can replace sex...
