Although breastfeeding is a very intimate process involving only mother and baby, other family members can also contribute. It is very important, and sometimes simply necessary, for a nursing woman to receive help and support, especially at first. Since all responsibilities for caring for the baby fall mainly on young parents, the most reliable assistant for a nursing mother will be her own husband. Let's try to understand how a new father can help a young mother in “nursing” matters.
- For starters, it would be great if dad is still a supporter of breastfeeding at the idea level. Many modern fathers, along with young mothers, are actively interested in issues of child care and education. There are a million opinions and approaches to the “children’s” topic, and while studying the information, fathers also strive to delve into, understand and choose the best. If a young mother is determined to breastfeed her baby, it is very important that her husband understands the value of breast milk for the baby and considers breastfeeding natural and the best option for feeding a newborn;
- assumes that the baby receives a breast “for every squeak” and stays at the breast as long as he needs. At first, when lactation is just establishing, children can spend several hours at the breast and sleep with the breast in their mouth. This means that the mother cannot do any other activities during the entire feeding period. As a result, the wife may simply not have time to cook dinner, clean the house, wash the dishes, or put herself in order. Dads need to be understanding about this, because for a young mother the priority is the child and everything connected with it. To help, dad can take on some household chores himself, or at least simply not grumble that he has to eat semi-finished foods for dinner;
- Although breastfeeding is not hard physical work, young mothers get quite tired from sitting or lying in one position for a long time. And after feeding, as a rule, you need to carry the baby in a column so that any accidentally trapped air comes out, lay it on the tummy, and cover it with a warm diaper. Dad can take over the responsibilities for these procedures, allowing mom to finally relax and get some rest. A nursing mother will definitely appreciate such help;
- Young mothers suffer the most from lack of sleep. A nursing mother has to wake up several times a night to feed her baby. Sometimes at night you still need to change the diaper or just carry the baby in your arms. Without a full night's sleep, of course, it is difficult for fathers, but it is very difficult for an exhausted, sleep-deprived mother to maintain lactation for a long time. normal level, therefore, during the period of establishing breastfeeding, all night care for the baby not related to feeding can be performed by the father;
- Stress and negative experiences are serious enemies of lactation; moreover, women who have given birth are always emotionally unstable, sensitive and vulnerable due to hormonal changes. Due to this, Firstly, myself to the young father it is important to understand what is happening with your spouse and to be more tolerant and loyal to her. Secondly, he needs to become a real protector of his wife and in every possible way protect her from hassle. Often the birth of a child aggravates relations with relatives: some obsessively try to give advice, others literally try to push the young mother aside and take on all the care of the baby themselves. If there are problems this kind, dad needs to make efforts to prevent open conflicts and showdowns. During this period, the husband himself can contact all his relatives, “conduct peaceful negotiations” and support the young mother in every possible way. Reading on the topic: O and o in women;
- Breastfeeding does not always go smoothly. In addition to natural lactation crises, a nursing mother can be overtaken by lastostasis or a disease, the treatment of which limits the ability to feed the baby her milk. Any of these problems requires a solution, and therefore time. The husband’s help in such moments may consist in giving the mother the opportunity to gradually and without fuss solve health problems: go to the shower to massage the breasts under a warm stream, express a portion of milk for feeding in advance before taking the medicine, lie down while high temperature. At the same time, dad can play with the baby himself, go for a walk with a stroller ( We recommend that you read: );
- The moral support of my husband in moments of problems with lactation is simply invaluable. Sometimes young mothers just give up, and it seems that it’s better to take a bottle and apply the mixture. Words of support from loved ones always give incentive to continue feeding. In addition to words, the husband can also help with deeds: search the Internet for information, find contacts of a breastfeeding consultant;
- Completion of breastfeeding, that is, weaning, is also impossible without the participation of the father. It is important not only to support the decision to stop breastfeeding, but also to help throughout the entire weaning process. Dads usually have to put their babies to sleep themselves and take them away from the breast during the day. Related material: ;
- After childbirth, women always worry about changes in the contours of their own body. Some people deliberately refuse breastfeeding so as not to spoil the shape of their breasts. Sometimes during breastfeeding, the breasts become covered with stretch marks and actually change shape. However, no changes in the body are worth depriving the baby of irreplaceable mother's milk. A husband can greatly encourage his wife by showing his love and care even after changes in appearance and body. We recommend for nursing mothers: .
Men are deprived of the opportunity to breastfeed, but, as we see, they can also take part in this process. Breast-feeding even for men it is beneficial for many reasons: no need to spend money on formula and bottles; You always have your baby’s food with you, so you can safely travel by boat. different distances. There is no need to talk about the benefits for the baby and convenience for the mother. It turns out that the husband's help during breastfeeding is an important contribution to the common good.
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These women are no different from us. They live and work among us.
They can be beautiful, successful, rich...
And walking down the street you won’t be able to pick it out from the crowd and won’t see any obvious signs talking about the role of “mother-wife”. And, perhaps, even after talking, you won’t notice anything so unusual... and yet I want to say again - “they exist!”
These girls come from families where:
- the woman acts as the keeper of the hearth and the breadwinner in one person, and the man plays the role of a “quiet, non-conflict male.” In such a family, the distorted style of the entire family structure is unwittingly shown. No, don’t think so, the man in these families also has more or less some kind of voice, but the final decision is “heard” by the mother. Not so - MOM!;
- there is an anamnesis (history) of an alcoholic family. In such difficult conditions it is difficult to know the real family values, so these children early “make a decision - “I do everything MYSELF!”, “Only I can handle it!”, “Everything is only in my (and only my) hands”...
- families where there are no men. In psychology there is such a term “Matryoshka Family”. In each generation there remain one, two, three or more women who either live together or communicate closely without having men. Men simply don’t stay there. This is how a grandmother can live who lost her husband early, but who gave birth and raised a daughter on her own (who put her own life on the line and talking to daughter that “I didn’t get married again for your sake”). The daughter, living with her mother (how could she leave her mother here alone? She laid down her life!), experiencing feelings of guilt, was unable to build, in the end, trusting relationship with the opposite sex. She gives birth to a daughter in the same way (symbolically, right?) and so the third generation of women continues.
Sometimes little girls grow up and leave the Matryoshka House and get married, but they still cannot build psychologically healthy relationships with men. Their relationships are ambivalent (two extremes) or they become “daughter-wives” or “mother-wives.”
Getting out of these roles requires deep analysis and awareness.
- and various other reasons...
Some traits of a “mother-wife” in a relationship with a man can be compared to breastfeeding.
* every time a woman is ready to invest in a man like in a child, sacrificing something.
Most often - with your life. Quality of life!
When we invest in children, children reflect this and thank us.
When we "feed" breast milk an adult man" - he becomes hungrier and hungrier. He needs more and more milk!
* men next to such a woman are hungry! Hungry for everything: energy, resources, strength, ideas!
* men are helpless, weak, not independent - like newborns, only in an adult body.
Some of them, for example, spend months looking for work, while women are hunters (2-3 jobs) without investing in household chores.
Some people have been “feeding breakfast” for a long period of time, so that tomorrow there will be more money (if it works), while you feed him real breakfast and YOURSELF (you regret it, take on commercial services yourself, continue to prepare delicious hearty lunches despite what. And if you suddenly buck, they will sell you a feeling of guilt. And these women already have a lot of guilt).
Remember the film "The Princess on the Beans" with Zhigunov? A wonderful illustration of this family.
Do you want to find the prince?! - Become a princess! Queen!, and not a dairy mother-nanny.
* especially interesting point is that a woman is LOOKING for someone to feed. She needs a good consumer of her milk!.
So they choose (unconsciously) exactly the type of man with whom they SHOULD BE in the role of “mother”. They do not know any other, equal partnerships. No one told them about them or showed them...
Do you recognize yourself?
Happens. There is an exit.
1. Understanding and monitoring your attempts to “feed” an adult man is already half the way. You are a woman, not a mother to your husband. The man already has a mother, she gave birth to him, raised him and contributed something to him!
Therefore, if you feel that a man has sat on your neck (literally and figuratively), then think about HOW he FOUND his way to your neck! Didn't you point it out to him?
2. Stop complaining about your man. Yes, he may be weak, dependent, Always-Where-Forgetting and absent-minded. Yes he is! And with you, he may not need to be different - YOU WILL DO EVERYTHING FOR HIM. Maybe you should look at yourself and stop?
3. Work with your fears!
LitGalla
Women decipher this abbreviation quite easily, while it confuses men. This happened to me too. Therefore, if you are a father or want to become one, remember once and for all: breastfeeding means breastfeeding.
I, as a specialist, reasoned that in our family we feed according to a mixed feeding style. He gave the pros and cons of breastfeeding methods. But I'm a man. How does GW affect me? I can’t take a baby and breastfeed him when he wants to eat or when it’s time to feed. It’s such a custom in the world that the male sex is deprived. Therefore, what right do I have to talk about GW and give conclusions?
Let me even decide that Eve needs to be fed on demand, because studies were conducted in Africa where women fed their children at the first squeak for two years. So it turns out: by the age of two they are more developed than European children. But the morning will come, I will wake up, get dressed and go to work. The wife will remain at home. And she suddenly decides: screw these African statistics. Let the husband (i.e. me) try it himself first. And he will start feeding on schedule. And I’ll come in the evening and start talking again about the fact that upon request - the best option. She will agree and in the evening she will feed on demand, and a new morning will come, I will go to work again, and my wife...
So what is my role in this GW? Is it really just about philosophizing? Perhaps male psychologists who reflect on the topic of breastfeeding are experiencing exactly the situation described above. It doesn’t work out at home, so at work they write a book about what they think is right in GW.
So I will try to summarize my own observations and conclusions regarding my male usefulness in breastfeeding. I think breastfeeding is not just a women's issue. In it, feeding, a man plays a significant role.
Power
To begin with, I would like to note that with the birth of my child, I lost undivided power over my wife’s breasts. Now I have a little competitor - Eva. She seized power with lightning speed, and now she is not going to share. That's how the little woman overthrew the monarch. Some would say that this is one of the disadvantages of breastfeeding for men. But I want to give a counter-argument: a wife and child suckling at the breast is true beauty, it is happiness to see the tenderness of touches and glances. Every day I can contemplate this picture (Leonardo da Vinci saw a similar picture, I think that this moment also struck him to the core, and he captured what he saw on canvas). For me, as a man, this moment is magic. And I don’t want to exchange it for a bottle with the mixture.
Meaning
There come moments when my wife gets tired, and that’s when I come on stage. My role is to remind you for what purpose this is being done. Because with continuous repeated actions, the meaning of actions is lost. Mechanics arrive. And then I try to re-describe the motive of breastfeeding. I talk about how priceless breast milk is. There are so many nutrients in it that thanks to it the child will have good immunity and will get sick less often.
Breast shape
I have read and heard that many modern mothers refuse to breastfeed for fear that their breasts will become ugly when breastfeeding. It will take on a saggy shape. As soon as I start hearing something like this from my wife, I try not to develop this topic. I assure her that I did not marry on my breasts.
It’s hard for me to understand women’s fear for their breasts. How can you agree to the birth of a baby, and then give him a pacifier instead of a breast? I don’t understand my male logic. The baby at my wife’s breast makes me proud: besides, by deliberately tearing him from the breast, the woman is deprived of some kind of spiritual connection. I agree that you can raise a beautiful baby with formula, but in the first year, or even two, you will not feel like you are transmitting some kind of power through milk. When you start feeding the baby, you will feel the energy emanating from you that vitalizes the baby. As a man, I am deprived of such joy. I have other joys of communicating with my baby. But I would never refuse such an opportunity.
Therefore, I try so that my wife does not worry about the shape of her breasts, because this is a feat of motherhood - to follow the needs of the child and give him the best. Now I have handed my breasts over to my daughter for safekeeping; she tries to keep them toned every day.
Words and hugs
It’s easier with hugs, but with words it’s a bit difficult. Every time I need to say beautiful epithets, a slowdown occurs in my head. I can write them, because I have time to remember, think, and say... Therefore, I try to prepare in advance for the moments when difficulties with breastfeeding arise. Pronouncing words of support during breastfeeding sometimes happens mechanically and by rote for me, but sometimes a surge of emotions will prevail, and then I cannot be stopped. Women need us for words (when my wife read this note, she repeated it out loud several times). Because every day she does the same thing many times. This is where doubts arise, of course. It is at this moment that male support is needed to help overcome the fog of doubt.
Emotional stability
I'm more stress-resistant. I have more logic than emotion. I do not have the imbalance in my body that my wife experienced after childbirth and during breastfeeding. Therefore, when my wife has emotional outbursts, I need to keep my head cool. You must not succumb to emotional provocations. I have to think for myself, my wife and Eve. When a few months pass and my wife’s postpartum depression passes, she will still thank me for my reasonableness.
Taste of childhood
When I look at my daughter, who so greedily absorbs her mother's milk, a secret desire arises - to taste it. At first I tried it secretly, so that my wife wouldn’t know. How is this possible? Everything is very simple. My wife expressed it into a jar and put it in the refrigerator for storage. I secretly opened the jar and...
I will say that my ears did not grow, and I did not become a kid, like in the fairy tale about Ivanushka, who drank from a puddle. I admit that my expectations were higher and more pleasant than the taste of this milk. Perhaps because it was cold. A few days later he became bolder and voiced his desire to his wife. She didn’t see anything vicious in my desire, so she let me try without any problems. And when my daughter satisfied her appetite, I got a few drops. It's better than from the refrigerator. But I definitely won’t be able to drink it in glasses. How did I drink it as a baby? Probably, like Eva, I liked it too.
This is how I tasted the taste of childhood.
Message in a bottle
Finally, I want to address my wife. I would appeal to all women, but no one authorized me to represent the interests of all men, so this appeal will be on behalf of one man. If any of the men think the same, I will be glad if you join.
“My dear wife! Beloved. I am immensely happy that you became a mother. Thank you very much for your daughter. The period when you started breastfeeding is for me psychologically heavy. I need time to get used to the idea that in our family there is already not only you, but another little person. He now requires a lot of strength and attention. I understand that you need to eat right so that Eva doesn’t have gas and doesn’t have a tummy ache. Therefore, I agree that there will be a lot of vegetables and herbs in the kitchen. No matter how much I want fried food, I am willing to endure it. What you can read about men is mostly untrue. And all because the authors of such articles are women. I'd like to show you good article from a man, but so far my searches have not been successful. I hope that soon there will be men who will not hesitate to talk about their experiences during breastfeeding. In the meantime, trust me: I’m trying to get used to the idea that you are not alone. It's not jealousy - it's something else that I can't describe. There is pride in this feeling. Pride in us. Be patient, I need time. Better yet, guide me gently.”
The Eksmo publishing house published the book “French children are not capricious. The unique experience of a Parisian upbringing”, which accumulated the unique experience of a Parisian upbringing, “seen” by the American journalist and writer Katherine Crawford. A mother of two children, Catherine could not help but notice that her French friends deal with many children’s problems and crises literally playfully. Their children are not capricious in public, recognize parental authority and are able to express their desires without hysterics. What's the secret? Catherine drew attention to the experiences of her French friends and neighbors.
“For me, Lucy has become an inexhaustible treasure useful tips, but she made it clear to me that this method of education is absolutely natural for all French people. In the States, we constantly talk and talk and talk about our children's feelings. But French children don’t even think about anything like that! And at that moment, an epiphany descended on me: I can become the head of my family, I can make my husband my orderly, and together we can take control of our home, playground, supermarket - and our very lives from our daughters! We can take our lives back to what they were like before we had children - at least to some extent. An improved version of our past life will begin.”
Secrets of French education in Lately have become very popular in our country. The reason for this widespread interest lies in the fact that in many countries parents today are concerned about the same problems. How to set boundaries and boundaries? How to confirm your authority? In what cases should you intervene, and in what cases should you remain silent? The book will be especially interesting to Russian readers, because our mentality in the field of raising children is very similar to the American one. This means that the problems that worried the author will be very close to our compatriots.
About the author: Katherine Crawford is a journalist, a regular contributor to the American portals for parents Babble.com and WhatTheyPlay, and a participant in television programs dedicated to the problems of working mothers on CBS and Fox. Mother of two children.
Below we publish an excerpt from the book on the French attitude towards breastfeeding.
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Parents have certain restrictions. You can't keep saying, "Don't lick my nose" or "Get your hands off my chest." I wish that once was enough, but this indicator only exists in my dreams. It's wonderful that my girls grew up on breast milk. During feeding they could explore my breasts, neck, face and everything... But at a certain point this practice needs to stop. Hugs and kisses are a good thing (and always - please don’t stop, dear ones!), but sometimes manifestations children's attention resemble unceremonious pawing. I constantly convinced myself that this was normal: the children are just very drawn to me and show curiosity. Still good, right?
But, to be honest, I didn’t want to be grabbed by different parts of my body day and night. The French mother's body is absolutely protected from the very beginning. French women strictly limit the time of breastfeeding, are categorically against the presence of children in their parents' bed, and immediately instill in children the idea that a mother's skirt is something wonderful and should not be stood on, especially if the skirt is worn by the mother herself. (Note that French moms almost never wear sweatpants!)
Until very recently, my children sat on me, hung on me, jumped on me. There were no barriers for them - they believed that I existed on this planet only for their pleasure. Imagine what it was like for me.
“Don’t give your child everything. And most importantly, remember that your breasts were created for your husband.” I love these words! My French friend was given this advice by her doctor immediately after the birth of her first child. I adore these words - despite the fact that they seem unthinkable blasphemy to any American mother.
For my husband - ha! Yes, when my children were born, my husband became the last person I thought about. The only moments when I remembered him were those when I wished that he would grow a pair of breasts himself, so that he could help me with the endless breastfeeding that I had so readily agreed to at one time. But French women receive such advice from their environment immediately after childbirth, or even before it.
In our country, we are told that if we don't breastfeed our children until they are fifteen, they will have a low IQ, suffer from terrible allergies, grow up obese, and be a complete failure in any endeavor they undertake (unless they want to become serial killers). But French women are warned that if they devote themselves entirely to the precious little creature who has just appeared in the family, then their sex life ends, your figure will deteriorate, and perhaps the marriage itself will collapse. I spent a long time in the atmosphere created by supporters of long-term breastfeeding, so I cannot support the French with all my heart, but think about the fact that French children show much better results in education - and they have much less problems with obesity.
I doubt that many French schools give children spelled crackers for breakfast rather than wheat crackers, because many children are allergic to gluten. The French know how to define boundaries in the most early age and strictly observe them.
But let's get back to my husband and his claims on my breasts. Although the French approach to this issue resembles a headline from the cover of Cosmopolitan magazine, there is something to it.
When you subordinate your entire life to your adorable offspring, it can be very difficult to find your way back to sexuality. It is extremely difficult to fight obsession, and we have already seen that American parents are completely obsessed with their children - and are ready to subordinate absolutely all aspects of their lives to the interests of their children.
Now let's move on to the nipples. While talking to a group of French women about breastfeeding, I kept getting weird - frankly, scared - looks every time I asked, “How long have you been breastfeeding?” In a group of five people, only one (excluding me) breastfed her baby for six months. “I decided to take a year off and I just had too much time on my hands,” the woman said, almost apologizing for her actions. All others were limited to three months.
It's no surprise that among the countries in the Western world, France ranks last in the number of months of breastfeeding. I nursed Una for fifteen months and Daphne for eighteen. "Eighteen?! Eighteen?! This is incredible! It's simply impossible! Perhaps you meant to say eight?” - my interlocutors exclaimed.
I explained to the shocked ladies - and this time my tone was apologetic - that I was only going to feed Daphne for fifteen months so that my children would be on an equal footing. I was always afraid that if I nursed one daughter longer than the other, she would become a brilliant pianist or an outstanding heart surgeon, or achieve other incredible successes. And then my daughter, whom I weaned earlier, will blame me for all her failures. But when Daphne was fifteen months old, she absolutely refused to feed from a bottle, and I had to give in and continue breastfeeding for another three months.
My French interlocutors did not understand me at all. I had the feeling (and this feeling arose very often when talking with the French) that in matters of education they considered me a little out of place. I can't say what struck them more - the duration of breastfeeding or my anxiety about a hypothetical situation in which adult daughter will accuse me of depriving her of breast milk.
I think you understand why I refrained from describing my unsuccessful attempts“turn off the valve” to Daphne. I tried everything - a trip out of town for three days, various fruit substitutes, and Stuffed Toys, and many many others… My daughter was stronger than me- Looking back at the history of our battles, I understand this.
I still remember with what force she threw me to the floor and lifted my shirt when I returned from my country experiment. At that moment, I simultaneously laughed at my baby’s tenacity and mourned the inability to regain my own body after a year of breastfeeding.
French women are not afraid to wean their children. And I thought that if Daphne so passionately demands breasts, then she needs it. No, no, I didn’t admit anything like that to my French friends. They simply wouldn't understand me. Or they would consider me a complete nonentity: Why does the baby make decisions for her?
And really, why?
Many French mothers do not understand how painful it is for many American women to give up breastfeeding and deal with children who do not latch onto their breasts. In France, women are not expected to be ideal providers. On the contrary, they are ostracized for feeding their children for more than three months. I've heard stories of French "rebels" who feed their children in secret to avoid hostile looks and aggressive judgment - and with them, unwanted advice and warnings that they are ruining their own lives and the lives of their loved ones. The French can be tough too.
I will never forget the catastrophe that befell a close friend of mine when she discovered that she could not breastfeed. She wanted to be "the best mother in the world." She tried, tried, tried, but nothing worked. Before finally giving up, she invited two representatives of the Milk League for a consultation. This meeting resulted in more tears. The friend began to consider herself an absolute failure.
She never produced milk, and the consultants demanded that she find a way to breastfeed - if, of course, she was “serious” about the health of her child. Naturally, such recommendations alarmed my friend even more. Before leaving, these ladies judged my friend for the size of her bed. In their opinion, a double is not a king! - the bed limited the child’s ability to feed properly.
The feeling of guilt that tormented my friend, who switched her child to artificial feeding, was unnecessary - and completely un-French. (But make no mistake, the French aren't afraid to speak their minds. They're just not in awe of the bottle.)
Another friend of mine, who continued to breastfeed her child after two years, complained to me: “They scold me for doing this. And if I didn’t do this, they would scold me for not doing it.”
Public opinion makes the problem even worse. We have to choose between what is good for our children and what is good for our womanhood. Zut alors! Damn it! I vote for us to respect each mother's personal decisions and not judge each other so harshly.
Okay, let's get back to our conversation. Perhaps I really did feed the children too long. I remember how a couple of years ago I witnessed an unpleasant scene on an airplane. The baby, who I thought was about four years old, was still breastfeeding. He began to ask his mother for the breast. The unfortunate woman, who had clearly already explained to the child that it was impossible to behave like that in public, called him to order in a loud whisper: “Not now. You know the rules! In the end, the child gave up, but continued to beg: “Well, can I at least look at her?” In France it is considered obscene - and very close to child abuse! - breastfeed for longer than a year. Thank God we weren’t flying on a French plane that day!
In this area, French women have a very strong advocate. This woman is a philosopher! Can you imagine, in our world you can be a highly valued and even popular philosopher! After talking with Elisabeth Badinter, I began to better understand why French women approach breastfeeding very differently than American women.
For many years, feminist Badinter has tried to protect women in French society and the workplace. Over the past few generations, the situation of women in France has improved markedly. Madame philosopher became so popular that her book “Conflict: Woman and Mother” was sold in every French supermarket in 2010.
Badinter began a real crusade to save French women from losing all the social and professional rights that they had won over the years. Although, in general, French mothers breastfeed much less than us Americans, Badinter is still wary of the "natural parenting" trend developing in her homeland. Madame Badinter fears increased pressure on women to extend breastfeeding. She also doesn't like the fact that women are constantly encouraged to cook their own food. baby food and the use of nappies and cloth diapers. According to Madame Badinter, society wants to tie women to children and home. Before us is a modern Simone de Beauvoir.
On the one hand (American), I think that Badinter’s fears smack of paranoia, bitter and a little frightening. But on the other hand, I want our country to have the same kind of feminist. I didn’t want to breastfeed my child for a year and a half - I know that for sure. But I didn't have the strength to put an end to it. Ladies, don't let yourself succumb to social pressure and guilt. You have it too own life, so insist on what you really want.
And now some controversial advice.
Although most French mothers do not have to resort to heavy artillery when weaning their children (two- to three-month-old babies are not very capable of resistance), I did receive some advice from French women that can be useful in particularly difficult cases. Please note that I do not endorse advice marked with an asterisk.
- * Apply black body paint to the nipple and area around it to confuse and discourage the baby.
- *Sprinkle the nipple with pepper or grease it with garlic so that the baby does not like it.
- Feed your baby before he gets tired and hungry. Then he will not consider feeding as a consolation.
- Don't be afraid to give your baby a pacifier instead of a breast.
Perhaps the most effective method Stopping breastfeeding, invented by French parents, is to prevent children from being in the bed of adults.
