Love always comes unexpectedly. You saw a man and it was like lightning struck. Now his appearance makes you feel stiff and embarrassed, every day you count the minutes until the moment you see him again. With bated breath, catch every word and glance in your direction. You hope that he will reciprocate, and you notice that he holds his gaze on you a little longer. But, if in some cases the man himself tries to get closer to the woman he likes, then in others, for a variety of reasons, he is in no hurry to take the first step. And the longer this uncertainty drags on, the heavier your soul becomes. Love is rarely selfless; any lover wants to be close to the one he loves. Therefore, in order not to torment yourself further, it is better to take some action and resolve this situation. What action is best to take if you fall in love depends on each specific situation, but every love story has something in common.
Today we want to talk about a topic that worries many representatives of the fair sex, such as what to do if you fall in love. Here are some tips on how to behave in different situations, for example, if your beloved man is married or he is your best friend. After all, the reciprocal feelings of the desired man largely depend on how to behave correctly if you fall in love. What is more important now for a woman in love than reciprocity?
Is there reciprocity?
The first thing you need to do if you fall in love: try to understand whether your lover reciprocates. This will determine what is best to do next. There are several options here: confess your love yourself, wait for him to do it, or stop loving.
Making each of these decisions depends on who your lover is, how he treats you, whether he is married, has a girlfriend, or whether you are seeing him for the first time and know nothing about him.
When a girl feels that she has fallen in love, she is also overcome with anxiety. It is quite difficult to understand what a man is experiencing if he does not show any emotions. Usually, when a girl doesn’t know what to do, it immediately becomes clear that this is not the kind of love that has captured two lovers and they are absorbed in each other, but one that can become unrequited, bringing only suffering. That is why do not take any steps, but wait and take a closer look at the one you are in love with. You can say about sympathy without words, so don’t rush things.
Action plan if you fall in love
Find out everything about your lover
First of all, if you fall in love, try to find out everything you can about your chosen one. Friends and mutual acquaintances can help with this.
Having learned as much as possible about his character and behavior, think again: if he has any traits that irritate you, that you consider unacceptable, whether you can put up with them for a long time. Or maybe you have already felt that he is not so wonderful, and you are not ready to experience unpleasant moments for his sake.
Study his personal characteristics and habits
If everything suits you, and you are even more convinced of how wonderful he is, start studying his habits, hobbies, what he likes or doesn’t like. This will help to avoid any mistakes in behavior that could push him away, and at the same time will provide an opportunity to find some common ground, for example, in the form of visiting the same hobby club, cinema, restaurants.
What kind of girls is he attracted to?
Also, if you fall in love with a man, analyze what kind of girls he likes, what attracts him to them. But even if he likes blondes or brunettes, the main thing is female beauty Still, there remains a sense of style, moderate use of cosmetics and well-groomed hair, face and body. Examine your wardrobe to see if everything matches your type, fits and decorates.
If not, get rid of these things and pick up a few, but those that are right for you. To find a style that will highlight all your advantages, you can use the advice of stylists that can be found in women's magazines. Please pay Special attention on the condition of your nails and hands, men really don’t like too long and overly painted nails. Therefore, it is better if the nails protrude only a few mm and are painted with a dull color varnish.
Use scents and aphrodisiacs
Remember the influence of odors on men. Choose perfume with a pleasant aroma that will emphasize lightness and femininity, leaving behind a mysterious trail. Fashionable fragrances from famous brands will make almost any heart flutter.
Join the company of the man you like
If possible, become a member of his social circle. This will help you get to know him better and provide an opportunity to get to know you better. Maybe after getting to know him better you won’t have to make any efforts to win him over. He himself will take the first step towards rapprochement, getting to know you better.
Be yourself
You shouldn’t change yourself to suit the one you love. You must remain yourself; this is the only way you will preserve your own uniqueness and beauty. Your task is simply to show how interesting, beautiful and unique you are, and everything else will be unnecessary. But with all this, your beauty and manners should be modest and decent.
Be a good communicator and listen well
Of course, if you fall in love, learn to listen to what your interlocutor says and try to use this information to interest him even more. He loves football - find out more about this sport, is interested in books of a certain content - read several new books. Learn to carry on a conversation.
If the man is married
But what to do if you fall in love with a married man? If a man is married or in a relationship, it is best to stop loving him. Don't harm your psyche. You should not completely devote yourself to loving a busy man, especially if he himself does not show any signs of attention to you. In this way, you will be able to protect yourself from unnecessary humiliation and will not introduce an imbalance into your soul, which will not be so easy to get rid of later. Every woman should have her own one, and if your lover is married, then wait until he separates from his wife or breaks up with the girl himself, without any effort on your part. After all, they say correctly: you cannot build your happiness on someone else’s misfortune.
But often everything is not so, a man will not make his loved one suffer, which means you will always be in second place. Therefore, if you fall in love with a man who is in a relationship, the best solution would be to stop loving him and get rid of this feeling before it brings trouble. Often, such love arises from a lack of male attention, and not because this man is your prince.
Therefore, it is better to use the tips to stop loving a married man and meet your love. You will be amazed when you meet your prince how much better he is than a man who is busy. Direct your energy to finding true love, don't waste your energy on a stranger you don't need. After all, all the actions that you decide to take to win him will only bring disappointment and pain.
What to do, beloved - friend
Sometimes it happens like this... you suddenly realize that you have fallen in love with best friend. It would seem easy to confess your feelings to a person who is nearby all the time and whom you know better than others. But it doesn’t always happen that a friend is considering you as a bride, or, on the contrary, you are afraid that if the relationship does not work out, the friendship will be lost.
If you want him around as a young man, then take advantage of other girls. You know him very well, all his habits and hobbies. But you need to make him look at you differently. Change the way you dress when you date him. Dress now as if you were going on a date, even though now you are. Arrange romantic dinner, watch a movie about love. Maybe this will make him see you as a beautiful girl or confess feelings that he hid for fear of ruining your friendship. If you are embarrassed to immediately say frankly that you have fallen in love with him, say that you have fallen in love with a good friend. Having learned about this, he will try to find out who he is, especially if he himself is not indifferent to you. And you will have a chance to explain to each other.
How to behave correctly
To avoid feeling awkward, try not to show others that you are in love. Show attention to the man you like, but try to keep it within certain limits, especially if you work together and spend a lot of time in a group. If your love ends unsuccessfully, this may provoke ridicule from colleagues whose attitude towards you, for some reason, is unfriendly, or nagging from your superiors if you make some mistakes while doing your work.
Having made the choice to talk frankly with your lover, stop loving him if he is busy, or leave everything as it is, hoping that the man himself will take the first step, you are making a serious decision. Whatever it is, the decision must be made consciously, be acceptable to you and not cause internal discomfort. Therefore, no matter how events develop further, do not forget that any experience carries invaluable knowledge that will be useful in later life. Love ennobles a person, makes him softer and softens the blows of fate. Whatever the outcome of your love, it is better to try than to do nothing and regret it for the rest of your life.
Love always comes unexpectedly. You saw a man and it was like lightning struck. Now his appearance makes you feel stiff and embarrassed, every day you count the minutes until the moment you see him again. With bated breath, catch every word and glance in your direction. You hope that he will reciprocate, and you notice that he holds his gaze on you a little longer. But, if in some cases the man himself tries to get closer to the woman he likes, then in others, for a variety of reasons, he is in no hurry to take the first step. And the longer this uncertainty drags on, the heavier your soul becomes. Love is rarely selfless; any lover wants to be close to the one he loves. Therefore, in order not to torment yourself further, it is better to take some action and resolve this situation. What action is best to take if you fall in love depends on each specific situation, but every love story has something in common.
Today we want to talk about a topic that worries many representatives of the fair sex, such as what to do if you fall in love. Here are some tips on how to behave in different situations, for example, if your beloved man is married or he is your best friend. After all, the reciprocal feelings of the desired man largely depend on how to behave correctly if you fall in love. What is more important now for a woman in love than reciprocity?
Is there reciprocity?
The first thing you need to do if you fall in love: try to understand whether your lover reciprocates. This will determine what is best to do next. There are several options here: confess your love yourself, wait for him to do it, or stop loving.
Making each of these decisions depends on who your lover is, how he treats you, whether he is married, has a girlfriend, or whether you are seeing him for the first time and know nothing about him.
When a girl feels that she has fallen in love, she is also overcome with anxiety. It is quite difficult to understand what a man is experiencing if he does not show any emotions. Usually, when a girl doesn’t know what to do, it immediately becomes clear that this is not the kind of love that has captured two lovers and they are absorbed in each other, but one that can become unrequited, bringing only suffering. That is why do not take any steps, but wait and take a closer look at the one you are in love with. You can say about sympathy without words, so don’t rush things.
Action plan if you fall in love
Find out everything about your lover
First of all, if you fall in love, try to find out everything you can about your chosen one. Friends and mutual acquaintances can help with this.
Having learned as much as possible about his character and behavior, think again: if he has any traits that irritate you, that you consider unacceptable, whether you can put up with them for a long time. Or maybe you have already felt that he is not so wonderful, and you are not ready to experience unpleasant moments for his sake.
Study his personal characteristics and habits
If everything suits you, and you are even more convinced of how wonderful he is, start studying his habits, hobbies, what he likes or doesn’t like. This will help to avoid any mistakes in behavior that could push him away, and at the same time will provide an opportunity to find some common ground, for example, in the form of visiting the same hobby club, cinema, restaurants.
What kind of girls is he attracted to?
Also, if you fall in love with a man, analyze what kind of girls he likes, what attracts him to them. But even if he likes blondes or brunettes, the main thing in female beauty is still a sense of style, moderate use of cosmetics and well-groomed hair, face and body. Examine your wardrobe to see if everything matches your type, fits and decorates.
If not, get rid of these things and pick up a few, but those that are right for you. To find a style that will highlight all your advantages, you can use the advice of stylists that can be found in women's magazines. Pay special attention to the condition of your nails and hands; men really don’t like nails that are too long and overly painted. Therefore, it is better if the nails protrude only a few mm and are painted with a dull color varnish.
Use scents and aphrodisiacs
Remember the influence of odors on men. Choose perfume with a pleasant aroma that will emphasize lightness and femininity, leaving behind a mysterious trail. Fashionable fragrances from famous brands will make almost any heart flutter.
Join the company of the man you like
If possible, become a member of his social circle. This will help you get to know him better and provide an opportunity to get to know you better. Maybe after getting to know him better you won’t have to make any efforts to win him over. He himself will take the first step towards rapprochement, getting to know you better.
Be yourself
You shouldn’t change yourself to suit the one you love. You must remain yourself; this is the only way you will preserve your own uniqueness and beauty. Your task is simply to show how interesting, beautiful and unique you are, and everything else will be unnecessary. But with all this, your beauty and manners should be modest and decent.
Be a good communicator and listen well
Of course, if you fall in love, learn to listen to what your interlocutor says and try to use this information to interest him even more. He loves football - find out more about this sport, is interested in books of a certain content - read several new books. Learn to carry on a conversation.
If the man is married
But what to do if you fall in love with a married man? If a man is married or in a relationship, it is best to stop loving him. Don't harm your psyche. You should not completely devote yourself to loving a busy man, especially if he himself does not show any signs of attention to you. In this way, you will be able to protect yourself from unnecessary humiliation and will not introduce an imbalance into your soul, which will not be so easy to get rid of later. Every woman should have her own one, and if your lover is married, then wait until he separates from his wife or breaks up with the girl himself, without any effort on your part. After all, they say correctly: you cannot build your happiness on someone else’s misfortune.
But often everything is not so, a man will not make his loved one suffer, which means you will always be in second place. Therefore, if you fall in love with a man who is in a relationship, the best solution would be to stop loving him and get rid of this feeling before it brings trouble. Often, such love arises from a lack of male attention, and not because this man is your prince.
Therefore, it is better to use the tips to stop loving a married man and meet your love. You will be amazed when you meet your prince how much better he is than a man who is busy. Direct your energy to finding true love, don't waste your energy on a stranger you don't need. After all, all the actions that you decide to take to win him will only bring disappointment and pain.
What to do, beloved - friend
Sometimes it happens like this... you suddenly realize that you have fallen in love with your best friend. It would seem easy to confess your feelings to a person who is nearby all the time and whom you know better than others. But it doesn’t always happen that a friend is considering you as a bride, or, on the contrary, you are afraid that if the relationship does not work out, the friendship will be lost.
If you want him around as a young man, then take advantage of other girls. You know him very well, all his habits and hobbies. But you need to make him look at you differently. Change the way you dress when you date him. Dress now as if you were going on a date, even though now you are. Have a romantic dinner, watch a movie about love. Maybe this will make him see you as a beautiful girl or confess feelings that he hid for fear of ruining your friendship. If you are embarrassed to immediately say frankly that you have fallen in love with him, say that you have fallen in love with a good friend. Having learned about this, he will try to find out who he is, especially if he himself is not indifferent to you. And you will have a chance to explain to each other.
How to behave correctly
To avoid feeling awkward, try not to show others that you are in love. Show attention to the man you like, but try to keep it within certain limits, especially if you work together and spend a lot of time in a group. If your love ends unsuccessfully, this may provoke ridicule from colleagues whose attitude towards you, for some reason, is unfriendly, or nagging from your superiors if you make some mistakes while doing your work.
Having made the choice to talk frankly with your lover, stop loving him if he is busy, or leave everything as it is, hoping that the man himself will take the first step, you are making a serious decision. Whatever it is, the decision must be made consciously, be acceptable to you and not cause internal discomfort. Therefore, no matter how events develop further, do not forget that any experience carries invaluable knowledge that will be useful in later life. Love ennobles a person, makes him softer and softens the blows of fate. Whatever the outcome of your love, it is better to try than to do nothing and regret it for the rest of your life.
“Love will come unexpectedly...” is sung in an old song. Indeed, she comes when “you’re not expecting her at all.” No one can fall in love (as well as fall out of love) at will or according to plan: it always happens suddenly, like a lightning strike. Sometimes the feeling is so overwhelming that the whole usual life fades into the background, and the person already thinks like this: “What should I do? I fell madly in love!" It seems that love is something that one should rejoice at, because it is considered a gift from God. This is not always the case, because sometimes it begins to bring not joy and happiness, but only torment and suffering. So what to do, if you fell in love “to death”?
Strike by lightning
This is exactly how those who have experienced the moment of falling in love often describe it. Strangely enough, this suddenness is more typical of men. They are capable of falling in love with a girl in one minute. It should be noted that their feelings pass faster than those of women.
It has been noticed that even a small detail can attract a guy to a girl: high-heeled shoes, a special haircut, the color of lipstick or dress, look, gait. Men are very attentive to such details and they tend to fall for them. This is such a phenomenon, and it is inherent specifically in the male part of the population. In other words, a guy, seeing a girl in a miniskirt on the street, may fall in love with her legs or gait. At the same time, the power of the feeling that comes can be so great that he thinks: “That’s it, I’ve fallen in love “to death”.”
The pangs of love
What should a macho, pierced by such a powerful feeling, do? Of course, get to know each other, and if the girl doesn’t mind, then develop and build a relationship.
If a guy falls in love with a girl, then he doesn’t care about all the barriers and obstacles. Men are creatures no less sensitive and vulnerable than women. That’s why they perceive it so painfully when a girl ignores advances or completely refuses. It’s good when, but this doesn’t happen very often. Therefore, the torments of love have to be fully felt by those who do not receive reciprocity.
Dangerous age
As a rule, people experience such strong feelings at a very young age. The love they feel lives as if on its own, because they, due to the immaturity of their psyche, cannot yet fully control emotions with their minds. That's why youthful love sometimes it can be so tragic and painful. It is not for nothing that it is at this age that children most often commit suicide due to
How to act to achieve reciprocity?
Let's imagine that a young man fell in love with a girl. What should he do to get the opportunity to be with her? Much depends on the girl herself. That is, whether she is single, whether she has a desire to build a relationship, how old she is, who she lives with, whether she even knows this guy and whether she is aware of his feelings. In fact, a lot depends on such moments in the future development of the novel.
After all, if it turns out that she is already dating someone or she simply doesn’t like the new admirer, then what should someone who has fallen madly in love with her do? One can only hope that she will either break up with her boyfriend or turn her attention to another contender. For this to happen, the latter will have to try.
You will need to woo your chosen one in every possible way, arrange surprises for her, and invite her to the places where she likes to go. You need to find out how she lives, what she likes to do, what food she prefers, what films and music she watches and listens to. Girls love it when guys are interested not only in their appearance, but also in what is hidden behind them. This is how you have to act if you fall in love like a child.
Waiting for an answer
In the meantime, there is no reciprocity, the lover will have to endure all the “delights” unrequited love. To make the wait less painful, you just need to shift your focus to another object. For example, you can find something you like, or resume a hobby if it was abandoned. Playing sports, any kind, helps a lot. They will not only be beneficial in terms of physical improvement of the body, but will also give confidence and vigor. And these results will never hurt anyone.
Love should give birth only to the best feelings and aspirations. It’s not for nothing that they say that it makes a person better, kinder, softer, more gentle, more soulful. To get the girl you fell in love with at first sight, you sometimes need to take unconventional steps. Women love such men very much: they immediately understand that everything is done for their sake, and who can resist beautiful deeds? Previously, knights fought to the death in duels, climbed through palace windows along smooth steep walls, and went on military campaigns for the sake of beautiful ladies.
So, if you fall in love with a woman, so much so that you lose sleep and peace, the only peace of mind will be the opportunity to be near her. Whether this will work out or not depends solely on the loving “Pierrot” himself. Or rather, from his persistence (within the limits of decency, of course), imagination, courage and depth of feeling. Women love persistent men and usually surrender to the mercy of the winner.
She, he and she
It’s good when strong love overtakes a lonely young man. This is natural, normal and fully fits into the concept of procreation. You can congratulate such a guy and say that he is lucky. Not everyone gets to experience this in their lifetime.
But there are other situations that are not so joyful, at least for one side. It's about about when a single man fell in love with another woman. On the one hand, this is joy for him, but on the other, it is great torment.
After all, he understands that in this way he betrays both his “official” woman and the lady of his heart. Men, being in this position, are aware that they are causing pain to all participants in this
Of course, the one who was betrayed is the worst. She is no longer loved or desired, her place in a man’s heart is taken by a rival. And while the once dear woman suffers from uncertainty and betrayal, her loved one thinks: “What should I do? I fell in love, but I’m married!”
Signs of falling in love
The dilemma is not an easy one. It affects the lives of several people. Unfortunately for some and fortunately for others, almost all married men throughout their marriage, at least once, they fall in love with women on the side. Some explain this by the loss of feelings for their faithful spouse, others by the fact that they were simply “covered” by the sight of a beautiful, sexy girl. It’s interesting, but even 40-year-old men, wise with experience and life, are unable to resist this storm of emotions.
Scientists have long proven that falling in love, especially bright, lightning-fast, is nothing more than the result of our biochemical processes that occur in the brain. For this reason, a person is simply not able to control what happens to him. He loses sleep, appetite, he is no longer interested in those things that have been a part of his life for a long time. So, work moves aside, a man abandons his hobby, and does not pay attention to his wife. And only one thought pulsates in my head: “What should I do? I fell in love... What if this is serious?”
Leave or stay
In such a situation, giving advice is a thankless task. Firstly, no one ever listens to them, and secondly, if someone follows them, then they also blame the adviser for all the troubles that have happened to him.
If we proceed purely from considerations of decency and elementary cleanliness, then an unfree man who has fallen in love with another lady either needs to leave her (if these are serious feelings, of course), or love her exclusively platonically. This may be the answer to the question: “What should I do? I fell in love, but I’m married!”
Love without joy
Even if a man fell in love with a girl platonically, he continues to live with his wife. Is this fair to him? Somehow not very good. It turns out that a man must step on the throat of his own song out of fear of destroying his family or because of moral principles. Share a bed, life with one, but have thoughts with the other? No one can stand this for long.
What to do if betrayal is unacceptable, and living in the old way becomes unbearable? There are few options, and you need to choose the most painless one for all interested parties. You have to understand that, at the behest of your mind, you won’t be able to stop loving just like that right away. Therefore, you just need to wait out, so to speak, the active phase of this period. It will last several months, maybe a year. Everything will end faster if you don’t see the one who almost ruined your whole life.
That is, we must do everything to avoid meeting this woman and not to visit her “habitat.” If communication needs to be reduced to zero, and even then, only on professional topics. Minimizing contact really helps a lot. But there is also such a thing as thoughts. They sometimes appear in the head without asking, and it’s difficult to get rid of them. When you next want to think about this girl, you need to train yourself to immediately switch your thought process to another topic. By doing this from time to time, you can completely get rid of unwanted memories, images and other things that prevent you from completely coping with your love obsession.
This too will pass
At first it will seem that there is no strength to live without her, that you need to go to her, that she is the one and only, for whose sake it is worth taking the risk, leaving behind everything old. However, these thoughts will soon stop appearing, just as that nagging, oppressive feeling that has not allowed me to live peacefully in recent months will gradually pass.
Soon, very soon, biochemical processes will stop fermenting in the brain, and all experiences, torment and suffering will fade away. This love can live forever, but falling in love lasts only from a year to 3 years. You just need to be patient, but don’t waste your time. Why waste it on meaningless experiences? It will be more productive to plunge headlong into some new business, focus on your career, or go on a trip. By the way, long journeys are the best medicine for heartache.
Help from outside
There are also very severe cases when a person is unable to cope with his obsession on his own. Some people go to friends for help, and some go to a psychologist. These specialists often hear the question in their offices: “Tell me, what should I do? I fell in love, but I can’t be with this girl yet.”
Patients with this problem are not uncommon. And they all want one thing - to hear from a specialist some simple and effective advice that would help them cope with this difficult situation. Of course, it is simply absurd to hope that this will happen. A psychologist will undoubtedly help get rid of addiction (and strong love is addiction to another person), but this will take time, because it requires an integrated approach. However, you need to understand that ultimately no one except the person himself will be able to help him.
Love without memory. What to do with it?
We often hear in life and from screen characters: “That’s it, guys, I saw her and fell in love with her forever.” What do young people do in such cases? Those who are bolder and bolder immediately come up and introduce themselves. Some do not dare to do this and pass or drive on. If they think about this girl for several days, they start looking for her all over the city. The most desperate can post notices on poles with her signs: with a description of her appearance and the place where the meeting took place. He asks for help finding her because he has fallen madly in love. And someone retains this romantic memory and lives on.
If an acquaintance has taken place, then it is not a fact that it will necessarily move into some other, important stage. Moreover, with close communication, a girl may not make the same impression as she did at the first meeting. And this is far from uncommon. Having fallen in love with some image, you can be very disappointed in what the girl really is. Therefore, of course, you need to communicate to understand whether this is your person or not. After all, sometimes Beautiful face, eyes or legs do not at all guarantee that everything else will be just as beautiful (human qualities are meant).
Long live love!
You need to fall in love, they say it is good for health, prolongs life and makes it more fulfilling, colorful and meaningful. The main thing is not to lose yourself in love, because in this format it turns a person’s fate into a nightmare. And this is no longer love, but dependence, which cannot bring joy and creation.
Falling in love at first sight does not guarantee love. In order not to miss your chance, you need to get to know the girl better. Or you can just move on: let this vivid meeting remain in your memory forever.
Love is something that has worried humanity for many centuries. In our life it has almost the most important meaning. Over the centuries, people have fallen in love, suffered, become happy or unhappy, entered into marriages and separated... Love captures people so much that they lose their heads and are ready to give up everything for the sake of it. Out of seemingly great love they begin to do stupid things, ruin their careers, abandon their families, squander money, and commit suicide.
Everyone is especially concerned about love in youth. Every girl, having once met her prince, loses peace and sleep, dreaming, hoping and yearning. And when the “prince” does not pay attention to her, in desperation he asks someone: “What should I do if I fell in love with a guy?” They scold her, dissuade her, give her some advice. And the girl continues to suffer, thinking that this is love for life. How can it really be? Well, it’s good if everything goes away in a couple of months. And if everything is really very serious, then what to do? First, let's try to understand what this feeling actually is and what falling in love and true love are.
How to distinguish infatuation from love
Almost every person sooner or later falls in love, experiencing tender romantic feelings for the object of their love. We think about him day and night, dream about how we will meet, how we will touch... All people want to be loved and to love. This need is inherent in us by nature itself. And we seem to love, and even mutually, and everything is so good. But then the delight from communicating with a partner suddenly evaporates somewhere. For some reason it becomes boring to be with him, and what previously seemed attractive about this person is now repulsive and annoying. What's the matter? Yes, it's quite simple. The fact is that we have confused infatuation with love. And it’s good if you haven’t gotten married yet. Then the separation will not be so painful. And if you had time, and even got children, and after living together turned into hell, this is already a disaster. Therefore, it is advisable to learn to distinguish simple infatuation from true love.
In fact, the difference between them is not so easy to notice. Both passion and love are accompanied by the desire to see your chosen one as often as possible. In both cases, thoughts are constantly occupied with him and with fantasies about the development of relationships. Both simply lovers and true lovers dream of reciprocity. Both of them experience uplift and excitement in the presence of the object of their interest. Both of them don’t know what to do when he’s not around. So how do you recognize love and distinguish it from superficial falling in love or simple sexual attraction? In order to understand whether love has really overtaken you, or whether you are experiencing some other, passing feelings, you need to calm down your emotions a little and soberly assess the situation. This will require answering several questions honestly and intelligently.
- What attracts you most in a guy?
If it's mainly him appearance(beautiful face and figure, manner of behavior, and so on), then you are still just in love. Beauty is not eternal. People get sick, grow old and generally change. You cannot connect your life with someone just because he has attractive physical characteristics. Sooner or later, even the most perfect appearance becomes familiar. And, consequently, interest in it is lost.
And this can significantly shake the foundation of the relationship. If you strive to get to know your loved one as a person as a whole and find in him, despite his shortcomings, more and more attractive qualities, then it’s time to talk about the authenticity of love. No, and in this case, of course, there will be an assessment of his physical qualities. But it will already become an additional incentive for the development of feelings.
- What different qualities do you particularly attract in a guy and how many are there?
When you are passionate, there are usually few such qualities. Let’s say you are fascinated by his smile, voice, sexuality, gestures, manner of speaking... And that’s all. In general, this is enough in the early stages of a relationship. However, if over time you do not try to reveal many more wonderful sides in your loved one, the feeling will come to an end.
True love implies the desire to get to know a person and discover new, very attractive traits in him. Each of us is individual and has both advantages and disadvantages. That's when you come to your young man with such a measure and you accept everything in him entirely, without trying to do something to radically change his character, feelings can be considered deep.
- How did love begin?
We are told a lot about love at first sight, about how as soon as a girl saw a guy and immediately realized that he was her prince. In fact, true love cannot flare up instantly. A flash of feelings in the very first seconds of a meeting usually means that the guy simply made a strong impression on the girl. Sometimes it is based on sexual attraction, sometimes explained by opportune moments, sometimes by intuitive attraction. But this is always not love yet, but a passion that can pass after a very short time. If the feelings have been going on for quite a long time, and your desire to be close to the guy only intensifies, despite the fact that you already know his shortcomings quite well, this is love. Perhaps she has not yet blossomed to her full potential. But it has already sprouted and promises to become a luxurious perennial tree.
- How do feelings affect you?
When people are still simply in love, they are not able to control their actions, in which discord begins. During this period, the girl is overwhelmed only by emotions. In this state, she thinks about nothing except the object of her love, and can make a lot of mistakes. With true love, a person is more organized and strives to become a better person. Because it does not destroy, but inspires.
- How do you cope with a long period of time when you don't see your boyfriend?
If, some time after breaking up, the desire to see your partner gradually fades away and interest in someone else appears - it was an infatuation. At true love The absence of your chosen one every day exacerbates the desire to meet him as quickly as possible. No one except this person is of particular interest; no one can take his place. In general, the test of separation is one of the surest indicators of the authenticity of love. Yes, we are afraid of her, fearing that the chosen one will have another object of passion. Yes, it hurts and can happen. But it's better to let it happen before they start serious relationship, not after.
It must be said that the answer to all these questions cannot give a full assessment of the feelings you have for the guy. Often the development of deep relationships begins with passion, which then turns into true love. In our case, we are talking mainly about the fact that you should not worry so much, if not the confidence that he is the one without whom further life is unthinkable. Maybe you should just look around, because there are so many interesting guys nearby! Surely some of them like you. All you have to do is smile at such a handsome guy, and all the suffering will go away. Do not want? Well, then we’ll think about what to do next.
What to do if you fall in love with a guy
If you seriously fall in love with a guy, and he doesn’t reciprocate yet, you don’t need to despair and cry, exclaiming tragically: “Oh, he doesn’t love me!” In such a state, you don’t need to shed tears, but do something. It is likely that the young man is simply not in the mood for any feelings, because you are younger or do not know him well. Or maybe that’s why he behaves this way because he considers you a girl from another circle. Or he is not ready to fall in love yet. All this, in principle, can be corrected if you find a suitable behavior and decide what and how to do.
Before you look for it, you need to get yourself in order. Girls with a pained face and with sad eyes Almost no one likes them. Therefore, you need to tell yourself: “It’s hard for me now, but there is joy ahead!” and confidently set off towards this joy. Let your eyes light up, your back straighten, your gait become light. Learn to smile, joke and communicate with everyone in a friendly and optimistic manner.
Guys like nothing more in girls than friendly, cheerful sociability and wit. Young ladies with such positive energy attract a lot of fans. And our young man, too, will probably not remain indifferent to such a sparkling young lady. But for this you need to be present in his social circle as often as possible. This means you should learn as much as possible about his hobbies and try to share them.
Does the young man like sports? We go to classes at the same gym. He has a dog? Let's get ourselves a dog. Does the young man always hang out in the pool or fitness club? We sign up for the same pool and club. In a word, we try to do everything to meet with him often. And on occasion, we start a conversation about the guy’s favorite activity, trying to make him understand that we also understand something about this. After all, it is enough for a man and a woman to start talking, and some kind of relationship will begin between them. In the future, all that remains is to constantly stir up the interest of your loved one.
To do this, you need to improve all the time, change something in yourself, learn something, not forgetting to take care of your own appearance. Ungroomed, carelessly dressed girls can become friends, acquaintances, but not loved ones. Therefore, you should always look neat and attractive and try to be as charming as possible. Then the guy will see you as a woman, and not an asexual being. If this happens, he will begin to feel sympathy. This will be the first step towards the emergence of true feelings.
Then all you have to do is pretend that you haven’t yet chosen who to fall in love with. The young man will certainly be eager to be chosen. The goal has been achieved. Now let him think about what to do to make you fall in love.
