Sooner or later, every woman realizes that she needs a serious relationship and her own family. However, sometimes thinking about past romances, a representative of the fair half of humanity realizes that all her men were far from ideal, married, or they had regular partners. For unknown reasons, a woman does not attract single men; she attracts exclusively married young men.
As a result, unsuccessful relationships in the past without a future and prospects for starting a family left behind exclusively negative emotions, pain and resentment, the woman promised herself never to fall in love with someone who was not free again, but the next partners turned out to be married again.
Some seriously begin to think that they have been damaged or the evil eye has been cast upon them, complain about their evil fate and turn to psychics, others generally despair and throw themselves into work. However, a woman always independently attracts married people into her life. Naturally, this happens subconsciously and unconsciously, but the fact remains a fact. You should consult a psychologist, understand psychological problems and complexes in order to break the vicious circle of misfortunes and relationships with unfree men.
Why do some girls attract exclusively unfree representatives of the strong half of humanity into their lives and build relationships with them? You should understand the reasons for this and understand how to avoid vicious relationships and find a partner for marriage.
There are several categories of women who are considered the most attractive and desirable for young married people.
Comfortable girls
Married representatives of the stronger sex tend to choose a woman for convenience. They do not want their spouse to find out about their casual relationships with their mistresses; they carefully hide their relationships on the side. That is why married people pay attention to smart and careful girls who will not arrange a showdown with the wives of their chosen ones and will not chat in vain. If a woman is a smart person who can keep her mouth shut, then married men will flock to her like bees to honey.
High requirements
Many girls strive to find an ideal partner for life, someone who is rich and handsome, gives flowers and carries them in their arms, drives them in a white convertible, and so on. They are not going to look for a good and positive guy who, due to his young age, has not yet managed to achieve a fat wallet, but is ready to love his chosen one and take care of her.
Therefore, it should be remembered that wealthy, successful and attractive individuals have already managed to start a family, and they could have had a lifelong friend while still at school. They went through a lot of difficulties together and now no one is going to destroy the family because of a beautiful face and figure. You should lower the requirements for candidates and evaluate yourself from the real side.
Unhappy past relationships
It is likely that in the past the girl had unhappy relationships with young people, which ended very tragically. As a result, she is afraid of serious relationships, considers all men the same and does not want to fall in love, looking for flaws in everyone. As a result, almost all single candidates for husbands remain on the sidelines. You need to carefully look around, there will definitely be a suitable prince to start a family.
Your boyfriend
It is imperative to evaluate how a woman communicates with the opposite sex in order to understand why she attracts married people. If she listens with pleasure to male troubles, stories about unhappy love, constantly jokes and is considered “one of her own” in male company, then she needs to change her behavior. Married couples adore such mistresses, they turn to them with problems, ask for advice, are interested in how to behave with their legitimate other halves, what to give them, and so on. You should not break the distance in relationships with such individuals.
Childish spontaneity
You should think about whether the girl takes herself seriously, why married people who do not need a serious relationship are drawn to her. It is necessary to accurately determine whether she needs a daddy or an equal partner for life. It is necessary to understand why a girl is so eager to get married, but shows childish immaturity at the same time.
Too pretty
Beautiful, confident and charming ladies always attract married men. After all, they are the ones who also feel confident in themselves, look well-groomed, contented and well-fed, beloved legal wives, therefore they are completely freed from complexes and flirt with beauties with pleasure. Well, free representatives of the stronger half of humanity may simply be afraid that they will not be interested in such a sexy lady.
Most men are sure that such women are already bound by marriage, so they do not even make attempts to meet or begin to build relationships with such a special one. Women need to look carefully at their surroundings and help modest people take the first step.
Was it really a coincidence?
Sometimes a girl notices that she always becomes a mistress, and has never been a man’s main chosen one. You should think about the fact that she independently and unconsciously sends certain signals to the opposite sex, which is why only those men who already have a permanent relationship are drawn to her.
Why should married men look for relationships on the side? Naturally, they need new impressions and emotions. They love their regular partners, do not intend to break up with them and do not think about divorce, but want to add variety to their lives. Cave instincts force men to hunt and become conquerors. However, most of them feel great with their significant other, feel satisfied and are content with only one-time relationships with strangers.
If a representative of the stronger sex has a ring on his hand, then other women immediately understand that the man is something if he has already managed to conquer someone. It is strictly forbidden to flirt with such individuals; they are not going to leave their official wives.
Men who live in a civil marriage generally consider themselves free, because they do not have a ring or a stamp in their passport. They adhere to the philosophy that they are free, therefore they have the right to have connections on the side from time to time, but they also do not intend to leave their cozy family nest, they feel very good next to their civilian life partner.
Male despair
A woman instantly shows with all her appearance that she needs a permanent relationship and is looking for a man. She dresses beautifully, takes good care of herself, smiles and flirts with pleasure. As a result, a married man who is looking for a one-night love affair will immediately approach such a person. He understands perfectly well that a girl doesn’t mind meeting and having a good time with the opposite sex, but then she becomes uncomfortable when the man quickly gets dressed after sex and hurries to retreat to his legal wife.
It is also worth thinking about your own complexes. If a girl has low self-esteem, then this is immediately noticeable. Men immediately understand that such a lady can easily be dragged into bed for one night, and then even humiliated and elevated in her own eyes.
The main rule of a woman
All women should know the basic rule that a man cannot be changed! Naturally, he may enjoy spending time with his mistress, he feels young and happy, and is aware of his own attractiveness. However, he will never leave his girlfriend or legal wife.
In the case when a man says that he wants to leave his wife, but cannot yet do this, he finds many excuses, then he will not do this. In this case, the mistress should leave and not waste time.
Naturally, if a permanent girlfriend or wife does not satisfy a man too much in bed, then he will begin to look elsewhere. However, if he tells his mistress that he does not sleep with his wife at all, then this does not mean the truth. You should not blindly trust a cheater, because his behavior speaks for itself.
Everyone usually looks for mistresses according to a certain standard. This should be a gentle girl who is always ready for sex, pretty and cheerful, with whom it is very easy to communicate, she helps to take your mind off problems. While the wife constantly drinks alcohol and does not take care of herself and the house, the man does not have sex with her. Everything is bad, he is so unhappy, even if she has five children in her arms. However, any girl should put herself in her wife’s place and leave the cheater as quickly as possible. Even if a man leaves his legal wife and goes to his mistress, then after a while he can betray her in the same way.
Psychology of attraction for married people
You should always remember that like attracts like. The Universe always guarantees this; this statement cannot be changed. A person strives to reliably hide all negative qualities and not show it to strangers, but they still remain noticeable to others. You shouldn’t deceive yourself, because everything in the Universe returns not even through the person himself, but through other people. If a woman is selfish and mercilessly hurts the opposite sex, then soon it will come back to her like a boomerang.
If a woman is a mercantile creature and thinks only about money, then soon a tight-fisted and greedy man will appear next to her, who will force her to count every penny. If she is ready at any moment to sacrifice herself for the sake of others, then she will soon find her executioner, sadist and domestic tyrant.
Changes for the good
A woman needs to change so that single men who are ready for a serious relationship will be attracted to her. You should think about your style of behavior and manner of communication with the opposite sex in order to stop attracting married people.
If it is difficult to understand what is the reason for such attraction, then you should ask the man what exactly attracted him, why he paid attention to the lady. It is quite possible that the truth will open your eyes to your shortcomings and force you to change. Well, soon a bachelor will finally appear on the horizon, who will be independent and wealthy, and most importantly, single!
Is this a coincidence or is it just you?
Have you ever felt like you only attract men who already have a girlfriend or even a wife? In other words, do you always go around as mistresses?
If so, then perhaps you yourself are unconsciously sending signals that are received only by those who are already in relationships with others. You just don't understand what your actions and body language are saying.
So, why would a man who is in a relationship look for someone else? Thanks to my experience with married men and bad boys, I can shed some light on this from the inside.
Men in long-term relationships are looking for new emotions and impressions. They still love their woman, but want something new. They are hunters, and the cave mentality pushes them to search for new prey. But many men are already tamed hunters, especially if their cavewoman completely satisfies them.
When there is a ring on your finger and another woman sees it, she shouldn't even try to flirt with that man. Unless he can influence her career or she just wants to drink at his expense. You can continue. But he won't leave his wife.
It's even worse with men who live in civil marriages, because they don't have any signs of belonging, such as rings. And psychologically they have given themselves such freedom, because physically they have no evidence that they are related. The philosophy "I'm only busy when she's around" becomes a mantra.
Have you noticed that when you go out with friends, not dressed up or wearing makeup, you attract men more often?
This is because men feel desperate.
A woman's need for a man is more than noticeable, and if he needs a girl for one night, then you are the first one he will approach. Sure, it's flattering - you get attention and free drinks - but it ends up being bad when you find out he has a girlfriend/wife.
I developed my theory of bad underwear. When you wear ugly underwear, you don't expect to come home with a new acquaintance. And when you have the aura of “I’m not desperately looking for a man,” you become more attractive and intriguing to the opposite sex. This way, they want you for who you are and not just to get laid.
If you have low self-esteem, it shows. Men know that a woman with low self-esteem is easy to get into bed and has a psychological and physical advantage. Such women are easy targets for one-night stands.
Rule #1 that women must learn and understand: you cannot change a man.
Yes, he enjoys spending time with you. And if he is older, then you will make him feel young again. But no matter how good you feel, you cannot convince him to leave his wife or girlfriend.
Another red flag is when a man constantly says that he is going to leave his wife. But if there is no other reason besides you for this, then this will not happen. Forget it, go away.
Sex is important too. If a man is not satisfied with his constant girlfriend, then he will look around. But just because he says he doesn't sleep with his wife doesn't mean it's true. You cannot trust a cheater, because his actions already speak louder than words.
The description of the mistress is usually the same. A mistress is a sweet, cheerful and successful girl. It's easy with her while his stress-drinking, unsexy wife sits at home. When he is with you, he forgets about problems at home.
But as soon as you find out he has someone, leave. What if it was your boyfriend doing this to you? If he's cheating on his girlfriend, it's more than likely that he won't have a problem cheating on you again.
And even if he leaves her for you, somewhere in the depths of your soul you should always doubt whether he will do the same to you. And then it will hurt you. Mistresses rarely win.
Hello. I’m 19. Yesterday I went on a date, by the end of the meeting he said that he was delighted with me, he was ready to almost kiss my feet, but there was one “but”, he is married. He's already the 10th I think! As soon as I think about a person as a guy, it turns out that he is married! And everyone is usually around 30. Why? Why don't young, unmarried guys look at me? I'm beautiful, smart, all these guys are ready to almost pray for me, BUT.... Honestly, this is not self-hypnosis, I can cope with it, but then again 25. Maybe something is wrong with me? Maybe I’m behaving incorrectly and scaring young and unmarried people?... Naturally, I immediately reject all these married people, but I remember the very first married one - he deceived me for six months, I loved him very much, then I recognized him... Well, in a word, after I don’t even want to talk to married people about this. There is another friend of mine, a married man, the owner of a bookstore where I always hang out.... I like him very much, we talk with him about books, about psychology (I am studying to become a psychologist), he is very kind, smart and after communication with him, I fly for a week, and I believe in the best. Then I come back a week later and recharge again. We have nothing, we just talk, and in “you”)) There is not even flirting between us, like that, he says that he missed you and was waiting, gives books, talks about what happened during the week and says goodbye until the next meeting. I usually come on Sundays, but with every day off, I want to see him more and more often.... BUT HE IS MARRIED, FOR ME THIS IS A TABOO. I’m terribly ashamed, but I can’t help it, I can tell off anyone, even the most handsome and charming married man, but I just can’t tell off a scribe... I know, I understand perfectly well that he has a wife, and it can hurt her, yes and in the end, the future wife, and it is better not to get involved with a married man - but he is an exception.
So I have 2 questions.
1. Why do married men like me?
2. What to do with the owner of the bookstore.....
Received 6 pieces of advice - consultations from psychologists, to the question: Married people like me. This is not self-hypnosis or installation
Hello Gauhar! Here it is important to understand that the root cause - i.e. first you fall in love (emotionally attached) to this owner, then knowing that he is married - you subconsciously choose these men in order to then reject them (since that owner is married) - i.e. You can project onto all other relationships with men exactly your situation with the owner - he is also married, but you cannot reject him! and take it out on others!
And this is more likely a misconception, “That married men like you” - of course, and unmarried men too! it’s just that, firstly, you choose them unconsciously, and secondly, these married men are more relaxed and easier to make contact, since a relationship will not be a serious responsibility for them!
Now, what to do about this: since you still have a relationship with psychology, you probably must understand that you need to get rid of not the symptoms, but the disease (cause) - You need to place all the emphasis in your relationship with this store owner - not in order to hope for the continuation of the relationship, and so that you and your emotions, and all the illusions associated with this person, can break out and thereby let you go. He probably also understands that you feel sympathy for him (not necessarily love, maybe just emotional attachment!) - You can voice this to him so that the emotions and feelings that are addressed to him finally come out! Say that you are pleased and need this communication, that you care that he is married, but you are not encroaching on his personal life and his wife - it’s just that the very fact of having this connection with him (attachment) is important to you and it is possible that he can become a good mentor and a person who can help you in a difficult situation!
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Gauhar, did your parents, when they were (approximately) 30 years old, not have anything so difficult happen in their personal lives?
Why do you write “I just can’t get rid of the scribe” if “ there’s not even flirting between us like this"...
“Why do married men like me” is 1) safe, 2) risky, 3) non-binding, etc.
“I can blow anyone away”, perhaps this is what you smell and many do not dare to approach, but for a married man... why not have a nice time?
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Gauhar, all problems with men, as a rule, have one reason - this is an unresolved problem with one’s own father. Your (unconscious) desire to attract men who are much older in age just means that you lack the paternal function (apparently from childhood). The relationship you described with the owner of the bookstore clearly confirms your desire for a man-father. You need to work with a psychologist on an individual basis. Only by resolving this problem will you be able to see men as partners, and not project your relationship with your father onto each of them. Good luck. Marina.
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Hello Gauhar!
So what does it matter if you are married or not? “All ages are submissive to love” - remember this expression, and love is a feeling to which people are also “submissive”, regardless of social status, marital status, religious views, etc. things. So give in to your feelings and they will not deceive you.
But your statement “HE’S MARRIED, IT’S A TABOO FOR ME” needs to be analyzed in a face-to-face meeting with a psychologist, why do you think so, where did you get this stereotype from....
And it’s also not realistic for everyone to be “good” (this is related to the question about your shame in front of your wives), and what you forbid yourself now is not at all necessary that in the future, some girl next to your husband will act just as “noble” How are you now?
All the best to you.
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Hello Gauhar!
I respect your values and beliefs. This pattern (the 10th married man and the absence of single boyfriends), of course, suggests some behavior of yours that conveys erotic (not to be confused with sexual) appeals to these men, but I would still do some more research before doing any then conclusions. You can attract married people for various reasons, for example, what does a married man usually look for in an outside relationship? Most often, this is some kind of emotional experience without the obligation to get married later. So think about whether you are doing something that could “promise” exactly this to men in relationships with you. This is about the answer to the first question. And my answer to the second question is also similar - we need to study these relationships better before we understand what to do with them. I recommend a series of consultations with a psychologist. Ready to be useful. All the best, Elena.
Good answer 4 Bad answer 1For some reason, young girls often look at those men who are already married. What interesting things do they see in a person who is often much older. Why do girls love married men?
Why girls love married men
Probably because such a man has sufficient experience in relationships with the female sex. He is independent and often has a good income. It’s much more interesting to spend time with him than with someone his own age. But, unfortunately, such romances usually end in separation. A man does not dare to leave his family, and, besides, a girl can be just an easy romance for him, an opportunity to have an easy time. Or the girl resigns herself to the role of a mistress, not hoping to start a family with her beloved man.
Positive and negative aspects of the love of married men
But, as in any relationship, there are not only negative sides, but also positive ones.
Let's talk about the negative ones first.
The girl is practically deprived of contact with her loved one. She can't call him herself. Otherwise, there is a risk that his wife will get caught. Therefore, her whole life depends on the man’s calls. In addition, conversations are most often devoid of romance. The man speaks dryly, observing secrecy.
For the same reasons, the initiative for dating lies entirely with the man. Moreover, meetings take place away from busy streets. For fear of meeting your loved one's friends.
Love contacts occur in a hurry.
The man almost never stays overnight.
The girl constantly experiences painful jealousy and envy of a happy woman - his wife. She herself has no right to the man she loves and cannot express her grievances to him. Since in this case, the man will simply leave and it is not a fact that he will ever call again.
Positive aspects.
The girl has a lot of free time, which she spends as she pleases. She is free to attend any entertainment event and does not have to answer to anyone.
No one tries to sort things out and does not create conflict situations.
By portraying yourself as a martyr of circumstances, you can make a man feel guilty. And then he will go to great lengths to earn forgiveness.
An affair with a married man does not pass without a trace. He can leave a deep imprint on the entire future fate of the girl. No matter what she does, no matter how much she loves, for a man she is just a secondary woman. The legal spouse comes first. And this wife constantly stands between them. If you think about it, you involuntarily admit the fact that there are much more negative sides in this relationship.
And it’s even more unclear: why do girls love married men?
Don't believe their promises. Very rarely does a man exchange his wife for a young and somewhat stupid mistress. Especially if there are children growing up in the family. More often than not, the ending of this story is not attractive. Listen to other people's experiences and don't make the same mistakes.
There comes a time in the lives of most girls when they begin to look for a serious relationship with the goal of subsequent marriage. But all the men who want to meet them or start a relationship are married. When their number becomes critical, the girl begins to realize that something is wrong here.
For some reason, without noticing it, she attracts
precisely those representatives of the strong half of humanity who are already connected by marriage. If this is your case, then our article will help you find the reasons for this circumstance, and also tell you how to solve this problem.
So, what are you doing wrong that is only attracting married men?
"Comfortable" woman
Married people choose those women who are comfortable for them. Most people don't want their spouse to find out about their relationship. Therefore, they are looking for smart and careful people who will not tell their wife. If you are smart, quiet, and even beautiful, you can become a good target for “married men.”
Excessive requirements
Some girls have very high demands on husband candidates. They are looking not just for a good guy who would love, but for an accomplished, financially secure person, physically developed, with a pleasant appearance. And such men are most often married. If this is your case, try lowering the bar a little. Especially if you yourself are not “sugar”.
Failed relationships in the past
Perhaps the girl had previously had unsuccessful relationships, when she fell in love with those young people who later turned out to be losers. Therefore, she is simply afraid of falling in love with the “wrong person.” Many single men who are suitable for the role of husband remain unnoticed.
Expand your field of vision maybe that guy you don’t notice is a real prince, although not from a fairy tale.
"My own girl"
The way a woman communicates may be the reason why she attracts men who are married. If she behaves too friendly, jokes often, takes on the role of a “vest”,
in which married men cry and even helps them solve family problems, she ultimately finds herself in a dangerous position.
If this style of communication is typical for you, keep in mind:
that it is very convenient for married people to have such a compassionate mistress. Try initially not to break the distance in communication and never help married men in their family affairs.
Infancy
If a girl is attracted to married men who offer frivolous relationships, then she needs to think about how seriously she takes herself, as well as all men in general. You need to think about what kind of partner you want: an equal or a so-called “daddy”.
If the problem is your immaturity, then you should think about why you want to get married if you don’t understand the seriousness of this step.
Smart and beautiful
If a woman is beautiful, charming, attractive and self-confident, then she always attracts married people. Well-fed, satisfied, wealthy, self-confident married men do not have a complex when they flirt with such a beauty. And it can scare away unmarried people.
Many unmarried men believe that a beautiful, independent woman has been busy for a long time and they don’t even make any attempts to start a relationship with her.
If you are from this category, take a closer look at modest men, who you think are not paying attention to you. Help them take the first step, and perhaps one of them will become a good and faithful husband to you.
Change yourself
Change yourself and unmarried men will reach out to you!
If you are familiar with the above, then you should seriously think about how to change your style of behavior, your manner of communication, in order to stop becoming an object of desire for married men.
If it is still difficult to understand what exactly is wrong, try asking the next person directly what exactly attracts him to you. You may be surprised to learn the truth, but it will help you change yourself.
And a man who meets your requirements will appear on the horizon -
reliable, loving, self-confident, wealthy and independent, but most importantly – single.
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