Passion is one of the most powerful human feelings. The initial stage of love. Mostly unconscious, instinctive energy. It cannot be induced artificially through experiment. This is a feeling that every adult has experienced at least once in their life. This is a state that you want to live again and again. Therefore, a person who has realized this rushes to search for the object of passion again.
As a result of evolution, nature created not just two different bodies, but also two different types of brains, two ways of thinking. Therefore, male and female passion are initially different in nature. In order for passion to develop into love, it is necessary to understand and accept these differences. Otherwise, non-acceptance of one’s own manifestations in a fit of passion and inadequate demands built on the basis of a certain ideal image to a partner, often lead to the destruction of relationships that do not even have time to strengthen.
A better understanding of the mental and physiological processes in men experiencing passionate feelings will help women greatly change their ideas about the “mysterious” behavior of men. And in the future, avoid mistakes in the process of creating longer-lasting love relationships.
Watching in modern society There are many examples of born, but, alas, failed love between a man and a woman. I come to the conclusion that it is the lack of understanding and non-acceptance of the partner’s behavior at the transition stage from passion to love that prevents the continuation of the relationship.
What kind of man is he in passion? Why is he acting this way? What exactly is happening? Every woman asks these questions. We will try to answer them.
Passion is...
For many centuries we have observed manifestations of male passion in literary works, fine arts, music, architecture, science, exploits. Everything beautiful created by men, all the scientific discoveries made by them, personal exploits - all this in the name of a woman and in a fit of deepest passion. By the way, everything beautiful created by women (and they also know how to create) was created in a state of love. Those. at the next level of manifestation of feelings and experiences. So what is passion?
Passion is an innate emotional process, a strong, persistent human feeling that dominates other impulses. Unaccountable unbridled attraction, characterized by enthusiasm and leading to the concentration of all aspirations and forces on the subject of passion. Objects of passion can be both people and objects and even ideas. Most often, the word “passion” is used to denote a high degree of sexual arousal combined with emotional attraction to that partner. Passion can be accepted and sanctioned by the individual, or it can be condemned by it, experienced as something unwanted and intrusive.
The main sign of passion is its effectiveness, the fusion of volitional and emotional moments.
Vladimir Ivanovich Dal in his definition of passion wrote: “In an animal, passions are fused into one with reason, forming a wake-up call; in the passions of an animal there is always a measure. Man’s passions, on the contrary, are separated from the rational principle, subordinate to it, but they are always at enmity with it and know no measure.” This definition most clearly characterizes the manifestation of passion according to the male type. Because the process of experiencing passion in a man involves the deep structures of the brain. More on this later.
The fact that the object of passion can be an idea or an object also applies to a greater extent to passion of the masculine type. Since in female version manifestation of passionate lust for an object or idea is not observed. This is also due primarily to the physiological characteristics of the female body and responses.
Passion expressed by a person leads to self-affirmation, creates a state of joy, promotes integrity and gives meaning to life.
How it all begins. Biochemistry of the process
A man is a polygamous creature. He likes many women at the same time. He can show signs of attention to a woman even on the basis of a momentary good mood. Often there is no need to see anything more behind this.
The first thing that happens during the attraction creation stage is odor recognition. The individual combination of bacteria on the surface of the skin creates an individual combination of gases they emit, which in turn creates the unique smell of each person.
This smell contains pheromones - a product of external secretion secreted by the body to attract individuals of the opposite sex. Pheromones signal that the partner is ready to mate. In humans, the effects of these chemicals on the brain are weaker, but no less important. Thus, men's sweat contains the chemical androstenol, which attracts women. And female vaginal secretion contains substances called copulins. Studies have shown that they increase a woman’s sexual attractiveness in the eyes of a man. In addition, it turned out that men react more positively to the smell, women at the time when she is ovulating. At this moment it is decided whether the partner will be attracted to the smell or not. If not, then no matter how cool the girl turns out to be, he will not choose her. Because odor molecules, penetrating the nasal sinuses, do not enter the brain, but directly into the limbic system. This is an unconscious process. If the smell is suitable, in the genital olfactory organ in the nasal sinus, some of the odor molecules are stopped and stored, periodically warming the brain for a long time with a small release. This odor recognition lasts 10-15 seconds and is necessary to recognize the compatibility of immune systems. If the immune systems are not compatible, this will affect the offspring. The next stage is the recognition of endocrine systems - hormonal statuses. Lasts for the next minute at the level of neural determinants.
Next is the stage of bodily sympathy. This is where unconscious ideals of beauty come into play: body shape and size, hair color, voice timbre, etc. A woman's external attractiveness is of great importance to a man. Based on his unique type of thinking, he needs to look, create a visual image and supplement it with his own fantasies. Usually a man pays attention to 1-2 particularly attractive features of a woman.
Whether passion arises depends on these coincidences. Each person goes through these stages individually: from 15-20 minutes to a day. And if all this coincides, the first stage of love begins - passion.
When recognition has occurred, instincts determine it as stressful situation, giving a signal to the hypothalamus. The hypothalamus contains the center of pleasure and displeasure. At this level there is an assessment: I like it.
The hypothalamus is involved in the regulation of external manifestations of emotional behavior by controlling somatic (facial muscles and limbs) and autonomic (glands and muscles of internal organs) reactions. Next, the hypothalamus selectively stimulates different areas of the brain. In particular, the hippocampus with its ability to respond to signals of unlikely events and include emotions as a compensatory function when there is a lack of information. Emergence emotional stress is accompanied by a transition to forms of behavior other than in a calm state, mechanisms for assessing external signals and responding to them in accordance with the dominant principle. The hypothalamus also triggers the sympathetic department of the autonomic nervous system, performs an activating function. It turns on at a moment of tension to mobilize the body’s special resources, ensuring readiness for additional active actions. The hypothalamus, in turn, releases corticotropin into the blood. Corticotropin, upon reaching the adrenal glands, stimulates the production of adrenaline and norepinephrine in the adrenal glands. The adrenaline phase begins. Adrenaline causes increased heart rate, constriction of blood vessels in the abdominal cavity, muscles, mucous membranes, helps relax the intestinal muscles, dilates the pupils, accelerates protein metabolism, reduces muscle mass, increases body temperature, increases sweating. Norepinephrine constricts blood vessels and increases blood pressure levels. They allow you to mobilize the body's resources.
Signals from the motor cortex travel to the nuclei of the facial nerves and in the brain stem, from where they reach the facial muscles along the axons of motor neurons. An explosive effect occurs. This reaction is manifested in the fact that the level of testosterone, the male hormone, increases in the blood of men. Which forces the man to start hunting and repel the attack. Serotonin levels decrease. All this chemical and mental compote gives rise to a state of passion. For a man, this feeling is like a long-awaited, fresh breath, giving an incredible amount of strength, a storm of emotions, and an incredible increase in motivation.
Psychology of male passion
An increase in testosterone turns on the unconscious instinct of animal hunting, but on a conscious level, a man does not see the object of true hunting in front of him. This dissonance often leads to confusion. Therefore, in a fit of passion towards a woman, a man often does not behave decisively. It is easier for a woman to provide a man with a safe territory and create all the conditions for a man to take his first step.
In a relationship based on passion, the man's satisfaction of his desires comes first. In this state, a man wants to experience vivid love emotions, to be with a woman, but is not ready to become attached.
During a man's passionate love, testosterone is injected into the bloodstream in five to seven waves per day, with the highest wave occurring at sunrise - approximately twice as high as any other.
In a man, at the level of the corpus callosum, the number of neural connections that ensure the exchange of information between the left and right hemispheres is 30% less than in a woman. A man’s logic and emotions exist almost separately from each other. Therefore, a man in a given situation is either emotional or analytical. During a period of passionate love, a man’s life is not limited only to the object of passion; there are other life and professional tasks. And since in order to get a result (and a man, by his nature, is aimed at the end result, unlike a woman for whom the process is important), he needs to concentrate on the task being performed at the moment, and the biochemical processes in the body do not fade away, the state of passion extends to all actions . During this period, efficiency in all areas of activity increases enormously. The inability to be constantly near a woman (seven times a day) makes any process an object of passion, revealing a man’s creative potential.
First sex and affection
A man’s physiology makes him think first of all about a woman’s body, about in different ways how to achieve this, and not about romantic relationships. The main erogenous organ of a man is his brain! His imagination! By creating the image of his chosen one in any situation, pose, in any clothing or without it, a man forces his limbic system to work almost to its limits. High levels of hormones and neurotransmitters require urgent release - you need sex, and with her.
Skin-to-skin contact stimulates erogenous zones. Impulses from them enter the brain. He, in turn, gives the command to release dopamine (the pleasure hormone). Dopamine increases sexual arousal and the need for sex. Copulin, produced in a woman's vagina, acts like a drug on a man. It helps you relax and get rid of stress. Once in a man’s body, copulin increases testosterone levels by 1.5 times.
During sex, only the deepest ancient parts of the brain are activated in a man. The sex center is located in the hypothalamus, which in men is several times larger than in women. Taking into account that the hypothalamus is stimulated by testosterone, which a man has 20 times more than a woman, a man is ready to have sex anytime and anywhere. At this stage, phenylethylamine, as well as possibly dopamine and norepinephrine.
Phenylethylamine enhances metabolic processes in the human body and reduces appetite. By the way, it is present in some natural substances, such as cocoa and rose water (which is why candy is such a popular gift). The listed substances are on a par with the so-called amphetamines - stimulants, under the influence of which a state of euphoria occurs.
During sexual intercourse, the male pituitary gland releases vasopressin, a hormone that induces attachment. The appearance of this hormone in the blood causes warm, tender feelings to a woman. And only now does a woman’s personal perception occur. Such changes in perception are also influenced by female hormone- oxytocin, which a man receives from a woman during sex. It causes a favorable disposition, allows you to believe the words of a particular person. This hormone in female body participates immediately after birth in the formation of the mother-child relationship. A man experiences the same psycho-emotional experiences immediately after sex as after birth.
After the first sex, dopamine sets in - the endorphin stage of passion. Dopamine gives the partner a certain emotional contrast of uniqueness and uniqueness. Instinct powerfully says that you need to be with this particular partner. A state similar to cocaine intoxication occurs. This stage can last for about 3 years, or until the baby is born.
An important reason for getting married for many men is simply the desire to have regular sex, moreover, without the threat of infection, which is fraught with casual relationships.
More than anything, a man is afraid of being erectile dysfunction in the eyes of his wife or other beloved woman. First of all, sexually, as well as financially. For a man, a lot in life is connected with work, with the funds it provides, with its social status. Along with the loss of his place or his own business, a man loses self-respect. And as you know, a person with a humiliated sense of self-worth is a bad husband, an unimportant lover, and no father.
Therefore, the birth of a child causes a state of achievement with a new increase in testosterone and a new round of passion. And at the same time, female oxytocin strengthens a man’s attachment to his beloved.
IN Is there anything brighter and more desirable in the arsenal of human feelings and emotions than love and passion? They rarely walk separately, more and more together, intertwined in one knot and confusing our already sometimes complex relationships. Let's try to figure out what is love and what is passion, and which feeling is stronger.
What is passion?
In order to avoid biased assessments and false comments, we turned to explanatory dictionary Dahl for an explanation of what passion is: “Passion is a spiritual impulse for something, moral thirst, greed, greed, unaccountable attraction, unbridled, unreasonable desire... A person in passion is worse than a beast.”
How is passion physically expressed?
- increased heart rate
- distracted attention
- involuntary dilation of pupils
- "goosebumps" on the body
- a state of sexual arousal occurs more often than usual
- often throws you either cold or hot
- the body is not at rest
- hands may shake
- a person may involuntarily constantly jerk his legs, etc.
What is a person like in passion?
1. In his blood is a cocktail of feelings of joy, excitement, and anxiety. Often there are so many ingredients in a cocktail that it is difficult for you to determine exactly what feelings you are experiencing. Since feelings are predominantly positive, passion is often confused with love.
2. He may experience new and unusual desires. For example, running in the morning, swimming, drawing, music. I want to take care of others, feed the birds, etc.
3. Experiences strong desire constantly be close to the object of passion, constantly touch it. Sometimes this desire reaches the level of obsession.
4. Wants to be a part of the life of the object of passion, and than mostly, the better.
Psychologists say that at its very core, passion is physiological arousal, everything else is just its shades or consequences.
What is love?
We decided to turn again to Dahl’s dictionary for clarification, but, to our surprise, we did not find a definition of love. It was probably not easy even for Dahl! We will proceed from the fact that love is “a feeling of deep affection, devotion to someone or something, based on a commonality of interests, ideals, on the willingness to give one’s strength to a common cause or to the salvation or preservation of someone.”
How is love expressed?
They say that a loving person glows from within, which is especially noticeable by the characteristic sparkle in the eyes. However, this is increasingly a definition for novels and short stories, although most likely there is a physiological justification for this.
A loving person is calm and balanced, so he does not have such bright manifestations external behavior like a person in passion. Someone who loves smooth movements and speech, harmonious facial expressions, and a calm voice.
Doctors say that love, especially mutual love, has a positive effect on a woman’s hormonal system. And this is almost the main thing in “external” beauty, so loving woman skin, hair condition, figure, etc. improves.
How does a lover behave?
— Able to adequately assess one’s feelings, behavior and attitude. In the article “to love” V. Dahl writes that this is “... a preference for someone or something by will, by will.”
- Calmness and balance.
- Feels a desire to show care, to protect the object of love.
- Realizes the imperfection of a loved one and is able to consciously accept this fact.
— Shows caution in his actions regarding his loved one in order not to harm or violate his freedom and personal space.
- Able to not be offended or forgive.
- Feels a desire to please a loved one and do good to him without expecting the same reciprocal behavior.
- Acts on the basis of everything written above. Love without action is just eloquent passion.
Love and passion are two opposites that are based on radically different principles: give and take.
How to distinguish love from passion? This is a very difficult question. Especially nowadays, when everything is mixed, different styles, different tastes, different concepts. Not life, but a “hodgepodge”. Many people do not share such important concepts as passion and love at all, seeing absolutely no difference and mistaking one for the other. But if you observe life, you can be sure that passionate love and love passions are a dangerous attraction. So what is the difference between love and passion?
In early childhood, small children try everything on their tongue, everything gets mixed together. It seems to them that everything has a taste, which is why they put it in their mouth, edible and inedible. And this is good for the childhood period, because everything needs to be touched and “tested.” And not very good for adults. After all, people who indiscriminately put everything in their mouths and want to try everything are called indiscriminate.
At the level of technical means, our civilization is moving forward by leaps and bounds. At the level of development of soul and spirit, we, intellectually developed people, are making a crazy leap. But, alas, this leap is not forward, but back, into the infancy of civilization.
There is an age when a child determines for himself, asking his parents: “What is good and what is bad?” And this is the age of 3-6 years. For some reason, we, progressive-minded people, have returned to the age of a child who is not yet a year old.
My article is not about the global problem of human infantility. She answers simple questions: “What is passion?”, “What is love?”, “How are they different?” After all, it’s time to leave childhood, at least in matters of love.
Is there any difference between love and passion?
With the fall of the Iron Curtain, they actively began to mix, and finally mixed passion and love into one whole. Therefore, the expressions “ passionate love", "love passion." And the “brutal man” and “vamp woman” are becoming more and more attractive and popular in society, in comparison with others who are not very bitchy and not very brutal.
Let's figure it out. When we grow up as individuals, we clearly define for ourselves what is good for us and what is bad. So, by a certain age, it becomes clear that drinking and partying every night is not good, you can quickly kill yourself... It becomes clear that one should have looked for a favorite activity in the form of a profession and a beloved woman in the status of a wife, and not rush into anything in a fit of passion.
How to distinguish love from passion, what is the difference between them?
Over time, it should be clear that passion is always dislike; they are opposite in essence. The difference between love and passion is as follows:
- Passion says “I”, first of all “I”, most often only “I”. Love comes from the position of “we”, first of all “we”, and only then “I”. Therefore, a passionate lover hears himself first of all, and often does not hear the other.
- Passion demands, appropriates, destroys. Love shares, gives, rewards. Therefore, in the so-called “passionate love” the partner demands affection, attention, care, money. In an outburst of love, we give all this freely.
- In passion, a man and a woman go bankrupt, they are forced to waste themselves, they twist ropes out of them, demand gifts, strength, and fray their nerves. Each of them is filled with love. A man and a woman, when they love and are loved, suddenly transform, become beautiful, happy, they are told: “Have you fallen in love? You’re shining all over!” In passion, people lose their heads, they are told, “Are you crazy? I’ve completely lost my head!”
- The most sincere love comes from the heart. Passion is born from the level sexual desire, no matter what you want, a new car, a dress or sexual satisfaction.
- Passion causes jealousy, enslaves, puts you “under lock and key”, in a mental prison. Love inspires and gives freedom, absolute freedom to everyone in a couple.
- Love creates, passion is destructive.
Difference between love and passion simple: love is a plus, passion is a minus. In love, everything grows for us, everything is added: strength, happiness, health, joy, well-being. In passion, everything diminishes: strength, joy, well-being and, ultimately, health. Think, remember and compare.
Love in all its manifestations, and especially romantic love, is always elevated to the rank of the highest feeling. She is everywhere: books are written about her, films and TV series are made, pictures are drawn.
But reality and works of art are two different things. A person who feels strongly attracted to another person may feel confused and internal sensations may be contradictory.
Does he really feel love? And how to distinguish love from infatuation, affection and other feelings? To understand this, It’s important to analyze your own feelings and compare them with information about what love and infatuation are.
What is love?
Love- a feeling of very strong sympathy that a person experiences, a feeling of spiritual unity with someone.
It is one of the dominant themes in all spheres of art; it is extolled, sought to be found, and highly idealized.
Robert Sternberg developed a three-component theory of true love, which perfectly reveals the essence of this feeling:
- Frankness, intimacy, sincerity. This point includes the confidence that you can entrust your partner with almost anything without fear of getting negative, and the desire to do this; a feeling of calm, confidence in the future that appears thanks to the presence of this person in life; the desire to be the same confidant for a loved one; the desire to better understand his feelings and help in everything.
- Passion. This is the desire to be intimate with a partner and receive deep physical pleasure from these moments. Also a person who truly loves will find his partner attractive. Passion is an element that is similar to falling in love, but in people who have been together for a long time, it is not as strong as in the first stages of communication, and this is completely normal: the body does not maintain a high level of love hormones for years.
- Obligations. This is fidelity, the desire to be with this particular person for many years, the desire to support him, to look for reasonable ways out of conflict situations to prevent a breakdown in relationships, and much more.
True love- this is a lot of work that needs to be done over decades. But, of course, this work brings generous results and makes life ten times better.
Many young people who grew up on fairy tales about love are little familiar with the concept of “responsibility”, often confuse love and infatuation, and strive to break off relationships as soon as “passion has weakened”, because they are sure that passion in the case of true love should always be as hot as in the first month of the relationship.
But these are extremely erroneous judgments, the emergence of which is closely related to the problem existing in society: love is overly idealized.
What is this work that needs to be done? Here is just a small part of what you need to do to experience deep spiritual unity with your partner for many years:
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Signs
The main signs of love:
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Concept of falling in love
Falling in love is strong feeling sympathy, which is based on hormonal activity and is not stable.
Over time, it either dries up or transforms into love, depending on the desires of people in love with each other. She not limited only to sexual desire, although it is certainly one of the pillars of this feeling.
Also, when falling in love, due to the action of hormones, a person is not always able to logically comprehend the personality of his chosen one.
Even if he realizes that he has some negative sides, he does not take them seriously and extols the positive ones. These are the so-called “rose-colored glasses” that “fall off” when love wanes.
The more rational and intelligent a person is, the more difficult it is for the feeling of love to completely fool him.
Lightweight, romantic people, accustomed to relying on feelings rather than reason, on the contrary, it's much easier to turn your head.
Hormones, influencing the appearance and maintenance of feelings of love:
- dopamine;
- serotonin;
- adrenalin;
- endorphins;
- vasopressin;
- oxytocin.
But falling in love is not just about hormones. It is unreasonable to believe that people - creatures that have advanced far in development - are driven solely by substances produced by the body.
The appearance of a feeling of love is influenced by a lot of factors, including socially conditioned ones, which are difficult to fully take into account.
Main features
Signs of falling in love:
There are other signs of falling in love, such as the desire to care, the fear of losing the chosen one, patience with any of his antics, even the most inappropriate.
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Similarities of the two concepts
The main similarities between these feelings:
- the presence of strong sympathy for a person, attraction;
- fear of parting with the chosen one;
- fear that something might happen to him;
- desire to help, support;
- the desire to be a confidant for the chosen one.
Love and infatuation have a lot in common with each other, because they have a common basis and common goals, but it depends only on the couple how long the feelings will last and what they will bring with them.
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The difference between love and:
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Attraction and true love - what's the difference?
Sexual attraction takes place during the period of falling in love, but if it is in the foreground, and other aspects of the feeling - the desire to protect, support, the desire to become better, the fear of losing - are absent or expressed extremely weakly, this is attraction, not love.
But if people who are in love with each other have a very strong libido, the boundaries between attraction and falling in love are partially erased.
True love is not selfish, and to maintain it you need to work: be attentive to your partner, take part of the responsibility, see the negative sides of your partner, be able to resolve conflicts, realize that love is not a holiday for life, but a much more complex quintessence of feelings, emotions, situations.
When falling in love, some aspects of love can also be observed, but they are not expressed too strongly. Falling in love is more fanatical, but love is a conscious, mature feeling that can last a lifetime.
Love or passion? How to determine? Comparison:
How to protect yourself from mistakes?
To better understand your own feelings, it is important to analyze them, think about it, ask yourself questions such as “Do I really want to live my life with this person?”, “Am I ready to accept him or her?”, try to track the negative aspects of the chosen one, write them down and try to imagine what they are belong to someone else.
Will it be difficult to tolerate such a person? Would you like to do business with him?
When you are in love (in the first few months), the color of rose-colored glasses is most saturated, so it will be difficult to protect yourself from mistakes due to the fact that hormones force the brain to perceive the chosen one exclusively positively, even if he behaves disgustingly.
In principle, there is no ideal algorithm that is guaranteed not to make mistakes in feelings, since life is unpredictable, and even a person who behaves exemplarily can turn out to be completely different at any moment.
Romantic interactions are a matter of trial and error, and it's worth recognizing that.
The most important - notice in time that the relationship began to bring pain, not pleasure, warmth and peace, and abandon them as soon as possible.
Sexual passion is a rather complex thing, the nature of which is quite difficult to understand. But if you share this feeling with someone, then you are incredibly lucky. From this article, you can learn in detail about how create or restore passion in a relationship, as well as how to maintain sexual tension.
If you feel aroused during a normal conversation, or feel weak in the knees due to an innocent kiss, then there is likely sexual tension in the air. And when you experience such attraction, then this is passion. Simply put, passion is what attracts two people sexually.
Why passion is important in relationships.
Passion keeps your relationship alive. If you and your partner do not experience attraction, then your relationship is no different from the relationship of a brother and sister. And love without sexual attraction is too innocent, and is more like a romance from a children's fairy tale.
At the same time sexual attraction impossible to fake or develop in any way. This feeling should come from the depths of the soul, and to put it simply, there should be a natural attraction between you. And if you don’t feel this, then there is no point in counting on an interesting long-term relationship.
Even if you can maintain a relationship for a long time in which there is no passion, then there is a high probability that, in the end, they will change you for someone else, or they will cheat on you behind your back (how to overcome the desire to cheat on your loved one). So if there is no sexual tension in your relationship, then it may not be worth spending your energy on such a relationship.
Why you may not feel passion.
There are many types of people in the world, and not everyone is attracted to each other. If you are an active and adventurous person, you may not experience sexual attraction to a calm, modest person, even if at first you found him very attractive. From this we can conclude that sexual attraction has a lot to do with lifestyle and how a person places himself in society.
If you are in love with someone and don't feel sexually aroused deep inside, then you may be sexually incompatible. But there is no need to be upset, this happens, and there is nothing you can do about it, you need to continue your search, and you will definitely find someone who will awaken the fire inside you.
Two types of sexual attraction.
Sexual attraction can be roughly divided into two types, the attraction we experience when dating, and the attraction we experience in long-term relationships.
In the first case, we experience passion at the beginning of our relationship; this is the hottest and at the same time shortest period. But if your relationship is more than a year old, then the attraction gradually fades away and so does the passion. All this is quite normal for all couples in love, but you should not put up with it, because returning sexual tension to a relationship is not so difficult.
How to bring back passion in a relationship(9 useful tips):
1. Don't spend all your time together.
Try to at least sometimes take a break from each other; women can go to a beauty salon, men can go fishing. Take breaks and don't cling to every opportunity to spend time together. After all, when your partner is nearby all the time, you will not be able to miss him, and you will want him much less sexually.
People who exude confidence always seem more attractive than people who sadly drag themselves down the street with their heads down. Love yourself, show your inner energy to others, and you will immediately become more attractive.
3. Make sure your partner doesn’t forget how lucky he is to have you.
As relationships develop, we begin to forget how wonderful the person next to us truly is. Find ways to remind your partner how amazing you are, preferably so other people can see it too.
If you get something easily, then you will never be able to appreciate it. If your partner can have sex with you whenever he wants, then he will never truly appreciate you, and when this happens, the passion in your relationship will begin to fade. It is important to understand here that you don’t need to refuse your partner sex, so as not to offend him; you can simply tease him on a walk or at dinner, in general, at a time when you are physically unable to have sex.
There's nothing sexier than a lover who's unpredictable. Surprise and shock your loved one like a bolt from the blue, be it a night serenade under the window or too revealing clothes, or maybe an innocent drunken prank, in other words, do something reckless when they least expect it from you. When you show your sexy and naughty side, it pleases and turns on your partner at the same time.
Positive people are much more likely to feel happy. So don't let life push you down, and do your best to live a fun and interesting life. When you are optimistic and smile all the time, then you appear and feel sexier.
7. Don't allow routine into your life.
New relationships are always vibrant and exciting because you are constantly experimenting and learning something new about your partner. All this gradually settles down, the relationship becomes more and more boring, and finally, you start having sex on a schedule, once a week after a Saturday walk. Keep these types of schedules out of your relationship, and your sex life will stay vibrant longer ( Useful tips for the spouse with less sexual desire).
8. Don't be shy about showing your feelings in public.
Public displays of affection increase sexual tension in a relationship. After all, if you are embarrassed to show your feelings, then this makes you look like preteens who don't know what to do with their sexuality. But awkward shyness can be easily overcome, wear something sexy and go to the club, there is no room for shyness on the dark dance floor, and you can do whatever you want with each other.
9. Try to look good.
You should always look as good as you did when you first met. If you have been married for a long time and have gained a few kilograms, this is not at all a reason to stop taking care of yourself and stop dressing up for your loved one. Remember, you should always look sexy because physical attraction always awakens desire (How to become a sexy woman).
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Passion and love in relationships between people in love.
How to understand what love is and what passion is in relationships between people in love.
Based on the analysis of the Worldnik portal Unlikely a person has feelings more desirable and brighter than passion and love. They very rarely meet separately, more often together, weaving into a tight knot and confusing the already complex relationships between representatives of the opposite sexes. Let's try to put everything in its place, understand what passion is, and what love is, and which feeling is stronger.
Passion, like the Serpent-tempter, is constantly close to real feelings. She is like an apple in the Garden of Eden: she can become a threat of exile and deprivation of everything if she just comes at the wrong time. However, only a few can resist it. The rest do not understand relationships, life and feelings without passion. And should it be considered dangerous? If we take the dictionary definition, then passion is a spiritual impulse for something, an unconscious attraction and moral thirst. Does everything seem simple? But how do people behave when caught in the grip of passion?
1. An explosive cocktail of feelings of excitement, anxiety and joy appears in the blood of such a person. Often there are so many ingredients in it that it becomes difficult for a person to determine what feelings he is experiencing at the moment, and since they are predominantly positive, passion is often confused with love.
2. A person may have new, unusual desires. For example, he begins to take care of those around him, run in the morning, draw, swim, play music, and so on.
3. A person gripped by passion experiences a strong desire to constantly be near the object of desire and always touch it. Rarely does this desire even degenerate into obsessions.
4. Such a person wants to become a larger part of the life of the object of passion.
Psychologists say that passion is fundamentally– this is physiological arousal, and everything else is just its consequences or shades. This leads, first of all, to a stormy sex life, because sex is the clearest manifestation of passion. Secondly, to the constant presence in your partner’s life through messages in social networks, calls, SMS and letters.
According to the definition of the site Vsemirnic.ru, it turns out that the human body no longer feels peace, because the main desire of a person shrouded in passion is to possess. Experiencing such a colossal number of different emotions, people lose control over their behavior, and this often leads to problems.
Love is a truly legendary feeling; millions of poems and songs are written about it., many people on the planet constantly think about her, she is literally a panacea for all diseases. Absolutely everyone wants it - from children to old people.
Love is a feeling of deep devotion and attachment to someone or even something (or simply a psychological attachment), which is based on a commonality of ideals and interests, on a willingness to help, save or preserve someone. Let's try to understand how a person in love behaves.
1. A loving person is well aware of the imperfections of his loved one and accepts these facts. And here we are not talking about little things, for example, he smacks funny lips when he eats, but about serious qualities - the desire to constantly argue, frequent lies.
2. Such people are always balanced and calm.
3. All loving people They experience a strong desire to protect and take care of the object of their love, as well as to please their loved one without expecting a response.
4. He shows great caution in all his actions regarding his loved one in order not to offend or harm him.
Doctors constantly claim that love, especially mutual love, has a positive effect on the hormonal system of the fair sex - a loving woman’s hair and skin condition improves, she loses weight, and so on. It is more difficult to recognize a loving man by these signs, since nature has already rewarded them better skin, outwardly such men can be identified only by their behavior.
Love is a conscious, complex, creative feeling that gives vitality , and passion, in turn, is an uncontrollable and sometimes destructive bright emotion.
Passion and love are opposites based on completely different principles: take and give. However, no one can evaluate these concepts soberly and state what is bad and what is good, since human life, one way or another, comes down to one concept - happiness.
Of course, love is a wonderful feeling, but in the right proportions, passion can make it much better - hotter, brighter, more lively. There is no limit to perfection! And the correct proportion turns out to be exactly the one that can make you and, importantly, your partner happy.
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What is passion in a relationship?
The concept of "passion" in modern world has turned into a squeezed stamp, which is absolutely necessary for every person in order to be a full-fledged personality. It is believed that it is impossible to live without passion in a relationship, that love fades away without it, people get divorced. But is this true? What is passion in a relationship? And is there really an urgent need for it? Or is the family still built on something else? Let's try to figure this out.
After reading the commentary of any experienced and intelligent woman, we will be convinced that passion is by no means a virtue, but rather a vice, which we definitely should not strive for by force. Of course, every couple sometimes dreams of a spicy relationship, but something spicy can cause you to get cut off and even damage your partner.
Passion is a very feeling strong character, which are usually caused by an acute desire to possess something, regardless of reason and ethical standards. Against the background of passion, everything else fades and dims, and life itself in its essence becomes empty and lifeless.
It doesn’t make the object of passion feel better either, because it’s not a desire to love, caress, fulfill desires... but simply the need to possess. Passion goes hand in hand with sexual concern, and a person can forget about his own dignity.
Passion does not usually arise in relation to something positive, accessible or, conversely, already familiar and from a less than pleasant side. But if there is a mystery in a person, if he seems like a closed book in an attractive cover, then passion arises - the passion to learn more, to touch, to try. Once the opportunity arises to see him/her, it does not provide guarantees for the further development of events, which gives rise to such feelings as:
A family built on love, mutual respect, and not on blind passion, guarantees a healthy psychological background.
Of course, passion is not an entirely negative manifestation of feelings. The passionate attraction of spouses for each other, like a hot spice, adds flavor family relations, fuels the fire family love. And many spouses eventually begin to complain about its absence. Here are some tips to spark your passion.
- Flirting. So what if you’ve been married for many years, so what if you’re no longer young. Flirting in small doses is good for everyone. This is a reason to forget about everyday life for a while and feel like a conqueror/predator.
- Replace the word “sex” with some nice allegory, like “strawberries and cream.” Such mystery will excite.
- Write each other SMSs with erotic content, or just about something intimate or pleasant.
- Organize joint entertainment such as a joint photo shoot. It will allow you to open up in a new way, realize old fantasies, and just interact for an hour.
- Change the situation: spend the weekend not on the couch, but, for example, in a park or in the countryside.
- Assign to your significant other romantic date like in the first days of your acquaintance. And it doesn't matter whether you are a man or a woman.
