Many parents often ask the question: “How can I make my child interested in learning?” But it would be more correct to ask yourself: “Why doesn’t the child want to study?” If a parent asks himself such a question, then a rather banal answer comes to mind - because of laziness. But in reality, everything is much more complicated. After all, reluctance to learn and lack of interest in lessons can be provoked by parents themselves, making impossible demands on their child, for example, that he must study excellently in all subjects.
So what to do?
First, take a closer look at yourself. What demands do you place on your child? Do they correspond to his age and capabilities? It makes no sense to force a child to study for hours if he is still junior schoolboy, and its leading activity is gaming. A child at this age is not able to sit still for a long time. Such a load may well cause nervous strain. The time allotted for lessons should be appropriate to the child’s age - two hours a day with two short, ten-minute rest breaks.
Parents are an example to students. Photo: AiF-Tula / Olga SVIRTSOVA
Secondly, if you demand that your child study only with excellent marks, criticizing him every time for a lower grade, then it is quite natural that the child will develop a negative attitude towards learning. It will be associated for him with the fear of punishment and a negative attitude on your part towards him. But, in addition to this, the child also develops a fear of making a mistake, which inevitably happens, since he is under constant tension, and, in the end, attention is scattered, and the child makes a mistake. This cultivates complexes in him, self-doubt, and since there is also a fear of disapproval from his parents, a lie appears (they didn’t ask anything, I’ve already done everything, etc.). To avoid this, encourage your child for good grades, for his efforts, and if he received a bad grade, do not scold or criticize, but on the contrary, support him, tell him that he tried and that next time he will definitely succeed.
All children are different, this must be remembered. Photo: AiF-Tula / Olga SVIRTSOVA
Thirdly, each child needs an individual approach to learning; it is necessary to take into account his temperament. By temperament we mean the type of nervous system that determines the speed and strength of nervous processes. There are only four types of temperament - phlegmatic, sanguine, choleric and melancholic. For example, it is useless, if not harmful, to demand that a child with a phlegmatic temperament quickly complete tasks, since he nervous system inert and unable to quickly “get involved” in any activity and dynamically carry it out. Such a child should be given more time to complete the task and not be rushed. But for a sanguine child, a fast pace of work is easy, but finishing the job to the end and not being distracted is a difficult task. Therefore, it is advisable to interest such a child in activities that concentrate attention and require careful execution, for example, construction toys, puzzles, and handicrafts. It is also necessary to encourage the sanguine person for his persistence in completing tasks. A child with choleric temperament may have difficulties due to excess energy, restlessness, and inattention. First of all, you need to give an outlet to the accumulated energy; the ideal option is to engage in active sports. Handicrafts, modeling, and drawing are also suitable for training attention. Cholerics are always in a hurry, explain to your child that the main thing is quality, not quantity. Special attention should be given to a child with a melancholic temperament. Such a child needs constant support from people close to him. The slightest failure plunges such a child into despondency. The task of parents is to teach the child to see positive experiences in mistakes, praise him for successes and be sure to tell him that you believe in his strength and that he will be able to cope with the task.
There is no need to demand the impossible from children. Photo: AiF / Sergey Ilnitsky
Fourth, be a role model for your child. It will be great if you tell him about your school years, about your successes, about performing at olympiads and competitions, about fun events and competitions between classes. Remember your favorite subjects, what you especially liked about them. Look through the school album together, tell us about your classmates, who you sat at the desk with, in a word, form a positive attitude towards school in your child. Do the same for the whole family Mind games, which broaden your horizons and desire to learn something new. Play “school” with your child, figure out how you can help your child do his homework in the form of a game, listen to his suggestions. Use various colored cards, pencils and markers, magnets, construction sets and various other items that will arouse the child’s interest and diversify boring math examples, texts and rules in the Russian language. This way you will receive not only completed homework and a good grade, but also the child’s desire to start such an entertaining activity again next time.
The child should not get tired. Photo: AiF / Elena Volodina
Fifthly, help your child, but don’t do everything for him. If you do your child's homework, you will take away his opportunity to learn to think and develop independence and responsibility. Your task, as a parent, is to respond to requests for help if the child has difficulty with one or another task, but the help should be in the form of a given vector, a hint, so that the child can develop his thinking abilities and learn to solve the tasks assigned to him.
To summarize, let us mention one more important detail- This is a workplace for a child. It should be a comfortable desk, located in an area with good lighting, plenty of space, and no distractions or noise, such as a TV. In this case, you can also show creative ingenuity and stick multi-colored stickers with mathematical formulas and exception words on the shelves and on the wall. Well, if there are certificates and awards, then hang them nearby in frames so that, looking at them, the child remembers previous successes and strives for new ones, increasing his confidence and self-worth.
The main thing that parents should remember is that the child needs your support. Show sincere interest in his success, be patient and attentive during the school stage in the child’s life. Take a closer look at yourself to see if you are too categorical and demanding, remember one wise statement by the classic of Russian literature N.V. Gogol: “To educate others, we must educate ourselves, first of all.” Good luck, dear parents!
This topic worries every parent. All families in one way or another face the problem of motivation to study. As part of our project “Teenager: Instructions for Use,” we decided to find out first-hand how to solve this issue.
A little about motivation to study - why I want to talk about it
Often parents don’t know how to get their child interested in learning? And when
It is not possible to interest the child, the question arises of how to get the child to study at school.
When I told my mother that I was writing this article, my mother asked me to give it to her to read when I finished. She has long been wondering how to get my brother to study. Mom read a bunch of articles about how to increase motivation to study in teenagers, but there was not a single one that gave effective advice on how to increase motivation to study. Therefore, I will try to write just such an article. Now, on behalf of this very teenager who needs to be interested in studying, I will tell you what I think about it.
Force and motivate
Sometimes parents ask, at what age is it better to send their child to school? At 5, as many busy and modern mothers do; at 6, according to standard; or at 7, as before? The reason for this question is often that parents are afraid of responsibility, and not their own. Psychologists answer that this should be done only when he is ready. One of my classmates went to school at the age of 8. When she went to school, she was not ready. And even now, 9 years later, I don’t think she’s ready. What do I mean by “ready”? Interested and motivated. Before entering school, it is very important to explain to your son (daughter) why this is necessary, what he (s) will get from it, why it is interesting, etc. When this is not there, then there is no desire to learn either. And then you have to force it. I always studied with joy, I was an excellent student, and it was me who was sent to all the Olympiads. So when my brother started school 3 years after I started, everyone was shocked that he was extremely uninterested. Of course, the questions of how to interest a 2nd grade child and how to interest a 3rd grade child are completely different. And the answers to these questions vary greatly.
But now, analyzing, I would like to make a few general rules about how to treat a child’s reluctance to learn.
- Help your child find a hobby - I think you have already realized that he is absolutely 0 in studies. But pay attention to his strong qualities. Maybe the only subject in which he has good grades is works? Or does your child know how to cook? What if he has hearing? To make him successful, you must develop him from all sides and turn your attention to what he has the ability to do.
- Don't set academic standards for him - Do you often tell him that he must have at least a 4 (5) grade in a certain subject? You know very well that the highest grade he received in this lesson was 3. He will feel guilty, nothing more.
- Believe in your child - Just try to buy your child auxiliary literature on a subject that he does not understand. Never opens a physics textbook? So explain to him that 5 minutes a day - and after a while he will have completely different results.
Motivation for school is a choice between “force” and “motivate”
It's up to you to choose.
Should a child be forced to study?
If you still choose to force, then think about whether it is so useful and whether it will bear fruit?
Anyone, especially a teenager, will perceive this coercion as a deprivation of freedom, and, as you know, freedom is included in the list of the main values of a person. Very often, the words “C” student, “excellent student”, “good student” are used to evaluate not the efforts of children, but themselves. It hurts, but that's how it is.
It’s definitely not worth forcing. You need to help, listen, think about the problem.
If you motivate, then how?
If you have chosen to motivate and don’t know how to do it correctly, then this part is for you.
When I started writing this, I asked my friend what he thought about it. He replied that efforts should be encouraged, i.e. give gifts for success. I would like to argue with him on this matter, because no money is enough for a gift for every good grade, but often for parents this method seems to be the simplest and most reliable.
My vision is that you need to teach the little man to learn on his own, without gifts or promises, because the best reward will always be results and, very possibly, success.
In the new 21st century, everything changes literally every minute, and if previously for success it was enough to study for 10 years at school and 4 at university, but now you have to study constantly. The professions of the new century - programmer and copywriter - require constant acquisition of new knowledge.
Do you want success for your child? You will have to try first. A lot is written on this topic, I studied the advice of experts, and here are the conclusions I can draw:
- when you do homework with him, try not to shout
- accept any of his hobbies
- teach him technical literacy
- answer any of his questions
- teach him to read, it may very well be that he simply hasn’t found a suitable book yet
- don’t tell, but show (home experiments, for example, are a very cool thing)
Motivation for schoolchildren to study is a delicate thing. It is important to interest, make you look from the other side, and show the advantages of this or that activity.
Exercises to motivate younger schoolchildren to study:
- Letter - offer to send a letter to one of your relatives (grandmother, godmother, etc.). Let him write it himself, decorate it and put it in an envelope.
- Book - go to the library and pick up a book that interests your child.
- Poems - learn with him a verse dedicated to the nearest holiday.
- Presentation - Teach him how to make a PowerPoint presentation and ask him to make a presentation about, for example, the thing he wants for his birthday.
- Interview - help him make a list of questions, and in the evening interview dad.
- Story - ask him to write a story about something that is close to him, for example, about a thread and a needle.
- Phys. a minute - between doing homework, show some physical exercises. Still, you can’t sit and sit all the time.
- Video motivation for studying - watch a video with your child about how, for example, to decorate your kickstand or about the student life that awaits him. That is, it is important to understand what else study gives.
All these exercises will help you develop creativity and instill an interest in learning.
How to get your child to study and do homework
I read Nesterova's autobiography a couple of years ago, and there were several pages about how high school She didn't do her homework at all. That is, she studied at school and remembered everything, but at home she did nothing. Involuntarily I remembered myself. How she crossed her fingers so that they wouldn’t check her homework, how she got bad marks, how she got out of it, but still didn’t do her homework. What is this? Definitely lazy.
If the question is: “How to get a child to do his homework?”, then the answer is: “Very simple.” Here coercion, constant checking, and so on come into play. Unfortunately, from my own bitter experience I will say that nothing other than this will help you. The child must want to learn. Because motivating a child to study at school is not everything. The main desire. We need to teach him to be independent, explain what is needed and why. It’s good if the child takes special courses and can do homework on his own.
Teaching a child to learn is easier and more enjoyable than forcing him!
How to make a child study well?
It's hard to force someone to study, and it's doubly hard to force them to study well. In theory, absolutely everyone can learn, and even learn well. In practice, this is not always the case. It all depends on the workload, the quality of the material presented, and the amount of time spent on classes. There is no one correct answer to the question of how to help a child study well. Remember that not all talented and smart children study well, and not all excellent students are talented and smart.
What to do?
- First of all, find out the reasons for bad grades and try to get rid of this reason.
- Talk to your child like a friend. Try to understand him and find out for yourself why you need him to study only with “excellent” marks.
- Find out what plans your child has for the future and teach him to set long-term goals.
How to interest a teenager?
If it is still easy to interest a child in grades 2-3 in studies, then motivating teenagers to study is a more difficult thing.
Keep in mind that the teenager knows that he needs a higher education, that he wants to do well in exams so that he can work later. But sometimes I am lazy. It is often confusing to think about the number of subjects that need to be studied, despite the fact that, as teenagers like to say, “I won’t need this in my life.” These are already problems of the educational system, but still.
Questions like: “What do you generally think about in class?” are rhetorical. Remember what you thought about in middle and high school. It is generally very difficult to convince a teenager that they need to study. And no matter how many times you repeat that without study there will be no work, without work there will be no money, he will think so only if he understands this himself.
A few ideas to motivate your teenager to study:
- Read/watch the news with your teenager. Don't force, just offer. It must be something about his hobbies. Discuss this with him later.
- Print or write quotes to motivate you to study. They can be in both Russian and English, for example. Stick them in visible places.
- Choose a beautiful stationery/notebook so that using these things will be comfortable and pleasant for him.
- Don't over-praise. You should be very careful here. It seems that it will never be superfluous to praise, but in fact, you will tell the teenager that he is already too good.
The problem may also be due to the fact that it is difficult for a teenager to study. Here, too, you should not resort to violence, but help. You can pass, teach how to study, see goals, not be afraid of tests, and quickly remember information. Because learning can really be difficult!
Motivation to study among students
When yesterday's schoolchild becomes a student, parents are no longer so serious about their studies. Like “your life, if you want it, study, if you don’t want it, work.” The opportunity to skip lectures is discouraging for students who are happy to take a break from school but have not yet learned self-discipline. Lack of motivation to study among students is common, because now everyone knows: a diploma is just a document. No one goes to work in their profession, and they only need to study at a university so that their parents don’t worry.
- The student should try to find contact with the teacher.
The teacher and the student must be friends. - University is an important place to expand opportunities, network and find yourself.
- At university, it is important to enjoy learning, go to university clubs with interests, and meet new people.
- It is important for the student to understand that discipline is the most important thing. You come to class in the first half of the day and spend the entire second half walking. You didn’t come once, you didn’t come twice, and the third time you don’t have to come.
- At the university you can sign up for an initiative group. Then authority appears, and new knowledge, and you want to get out of bed in the morning.
It seems to me that it’s great when a teenager and a child are helped to see their goal, understand why they need to study and make efforts. It’s good when a teenager is conscious and understands everything himself. But this does not always happen. And listening to parents can also be difficult... Therefore, courses on. Because when you are in the company of other guys, together with them you think about your goals and future, you don’t want to resist. You really want to become better!
Finally
Motivation is a thing without which it is impossible either at school or in adult life. How to find motivation to study if he doesn’t want to do anything himself? It is important to teach him to look for it, for the sake of his own success in the future.
A new one begins academic year, and many parents are worried about what results their children will show at school. But as a columnist for The Huffington Post writes, it's not just grades that adults need to worry about. In order for children to study well, it is necessary to inspire them, push them to new discoveries and help them find their large quantities school and extracurricular disciplines that will appeal to everyone and will help reveal children's talents.
These 10 simple rules, compiled by psychoanalyst and child-rearing specialist Laurie Hollman, will help parents and children view learning not as an obligatory and boring activity, but as a way of understanding the world.
1. Ask your child what exactly he likes most about his classes at school? What is he inclined towards and what interests him?
2. Encourage your child to go beyond the school curriculum and learn more about the subject of his interest. The Internet can help - read something that will show the student his favorite subject from a new side.
3. Use any sources for inspiration: environment, the library or the experience of your friends who have achieved success in an area of interest to the child.
4. Don’t judge your child’s efforts; let him focus on the joy of learning new things.
5. Focus more on discoveries rather than on how difficult the child has mastered the material.
6. Draw and write stories of your successes together and share them on social networks.
7. Measure success by the number of new ideas, not the results of tests.
8. Post a video on YouTube about a project your child is doing and expect positive comments.
9. Let your ideas inspire other parents, communicate with them and share experiences on social networks.
10. Let your child learn for the sake of the process of learning and cognition itself, and the grades themselves will rise.
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At the end of first grade, all students can read. In order for children not to lose reading fluency and interest in intellectual pursuits during the three summer months of vacation, parents must make sure that they have a literature list for 1st grade for the summer.
How to interest a first grader?
What needs to be done to instill interest in literature?
During the preschool period, we would advise parents to read to their children as much and as often as possible. But now that the child has mastered literacy, the approach should be somewhat different. After the first year of school, children can easily read all books for 1st grade on their own! At this stage the main task parents - to give the child a “taste” of reading, to teach him to perceive it as a pleasure, and not as a duty, and certainly not as a punishment.
How to achieve this?
Firstly, you need to take into account that books for children 7 years old should be appropriate for their age, which means they should be bright, easy to read and at the same time carry a “grain” of knowledge, that is, replenish the child’s vocabulary and broaden his horizons. Secondly, focus on the child’s independent reading - under no circumstances read to him out loud: change roles - before you read books to him, now he reads to you. At the same time, you will impartially evaluate your child’s reading technique.
Probably, some parents are concerned about the question: how many words per minute should a seven-year-old child read? In fact, you don’t need to stand with a stopwatch in your hands and calculate the number of words you read in 60 seconds. Take any books for 7-year-old children and give your child the opportunity to choose the one that interests him, with its cover and illustrations. Don’t show your child that you want to test him - anxiety may make him read worse. Just ask him to read it out loud, tell him that you also really liked this book and now you can’t wait to find out what it’s about.
What is good"?
You can give your first-grade graduate an “excellent” rating if his reading is fluent and there is no division of long words into syllables; punctuation marks are observed: at the end of the sentence the voice is lowered - the thought is finished, in place of commas there are small pauses emphasizing the author's thought; Interrogative and exclamatory sentences are read with appropriate intonation.
If you, frankly speaking, are dissatisfied with your child’s reading technique, and this may well be the case, do not be upset: over the summer your child will learn to read very well, but only if the list of literature for the summer for 1st grade is not just rewritten, but adopted as a “guide to action.”
But those parents who think that their child’s reading technique is already excellent, that is, he reads fluently, should “support” his achievements in the summer. You can see what literature for the summer for 1st grade is offered to children of this age category, choose some book with a lot of dialogues. Periodically invite the child to voice “roles.” The child will enjoy this exercise, and the parents will solve an important educational problem: over the summer the child will learn to read not only quickly, but also expressively, and will learn the basics of “acting.”
It is very important to understand the capabilities of a child of this age: he seems to be already a schoolboy, but at the same time it is difficult for him to sit still for a long time, he does not like “difficulties”, if he is not interested at all, he quickly loses interest in the lesson. It's still like in kindergarten, are attracted to bright pictures. Based on this, he needs to select books for a 7-year-old that he will immediately like, even visually, that is, the child will want to look at the colorful illustrations, and then, accordingly, find out the plot.
Common mistakes parents make
The mistake of many parents is that they strive to quickly “complicate” the material for their children, so books for first graders no longer seem relevant to them: they want their children to be significantly ahead of their peers. Sometimes you can hear fathers and mothers proudly talking about the fact that their seven-year-old child is already reading, for example, A.S. Pushkin’s story “The Captain’s Daughter” or something else from the high school curriculum. And now we have come to the most important thing: books for 1st grade are selected taking into account what a small student can understand! Indeed, if a child has mastered the technique of reading, he will voice - only voice, but not understand - a text of any complexity: such reading will do nothing for the formation of the child’s personality.
Does your robber have bad marks in his diary again? Your child doesn’t listen, but it’s simply impossible to get him to do his homework? Many parents have a situation where the child does not want to study, skips school and is not attentive in class.
Adults often make a lot of mistakes in order to force their daughter or son to study. This happens because there is no knowledge of how to cultivate a love of learning in children. Some begin to be raised in the same way as they were raised in childhood. It turns out that upbringing mistakes pass from generation to generation. First, our parents suffer themselves and force us to study, then we apply the same torture to our children.
When a child does not study well, bleak pictures of what his future may be are drawn in his head. Instead of a prestigious university and an academic degree, a third-rate technical school. Instead of a brilliant career and a good salary, a job that you are ashamed to tell your friends about. And instead of a salary, it’s pennies on which it’s unclear how to live. Nobody wants such a future for their children.
To understand why our children do not feel the desire to learn, we need to find the reason for this. There are a lot of them. Let's look at the main ones.
1) No desire or incentive to study
Many adults are accustomed to forcing a child to do something against his will, to impose his opinion. If a student resists doing what he doesn’t want, this means that his personality is not broken. And that's okay.
There is only one way to involve your child in learning - to interest him. Of course, teachers should think about this first. An uninterestingly designed program, boring teachers teaching lessons without taking into account the age of the children - all this contributes to the fact that the child will avoid learning and be lazy in completing tasks.
2) Stress at school
People are structured as follows: first, simple needs for food, sleep, and safety are satisfied. But the need for new knowledge and development is already in the background. School sometimes becomes a real source of stress for children. Where kids experience different things every day negative emotions, such as: fear, tension, shame, humiliation.
In fact, 70% of the reasons why children do not want to study and go to school are due to stress. (Bad relationships with peers, teachers, insults from older comrades)
Parents may think: after all, there were only 4 lessons, the child says he is tired, which means he is lazy. In fact stressful situations takes a lot of energy from him. Moreover, it causes negativity towards this environment. Therefore, he begins to think poorly, his memory works worse, and he looks inhibited. Before attacking your child and forcing him, it is better to ask how he is doing at school. Was it difficult for him? How is his relationship with other children and teachers?
Case from practice:
We had a consultation with an 8-year-old boy. According to the boy's mother, in the last few months he began to skip classes and often did not complete his homework. And before that, although he was not an excellent student, he studied diligently and there were no special problems with him.
It turned out that a new student had been transferred to their class and was bullying the child in every possible way. He ridiculed him in front of his comrades and even used physical force and extorted money. The child, due to his inexperience, did not know what to do with it. He did not complain to his parents or teachers, because he did not want to be branded as a sneak. But I couldn’t solve this problem myself. Here is a clear example of how stressful conditions make it difficult to gnaw on the granite of science.
3) Pressure resistance
This is how the psyche works: when pressure is put on us, we resist with all our might. The more the mother and father force the student to do his homework, the more he begins to avoid it. This once again confirms the fact that this situation cannot be corrected by force.
4) Low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence
Excessive criticism of parents towards the child leads to low self-esteem. If no matter what a student does, you still cannot please, then this is just such a case. The child’s motivation completely disappears. What difference does it make whether they give it a 2 or a 5, no one will praise it, appreciate it, or say a kind word.
5) Too much control and help
There are parents who literally teach themselves instead of their child. They collect his briefcase for him, do his homework, tell him what to do, how and when to do it. In this case, the student takes a passive position. He no longer needs to think with his own head and is unable to answer for himself. Motivation also disappears, as he plays the role of a puppet.
It should be noted that this occurs quite often in modern families and is a big problem. Parents themselves spoil their child by trying to help him. Total control kills independence and responsibility. And this pattern of behavior continues into adulthood.
Case from practice:
Irina turned to us for help. She had problems with the academic performance of her 9-year-old daughter. If the mother was late at work or went on a business trip, the girl did not do her homework. During lessons she also behaved passively and if the teacher did not look after her, she would get distracted and do other things.
It turned out that Irina strongly interfered with the learning process from the first grade. She was overly controlling of her daughter, literally not allowing her to take a step on her own. This is a disastrous result. The daughter had no desire to study at all; she believed that only her mother needed it, not her. And I only did it under pressure.
There is only one treatment here: stop patronizing the child and explain why you need to study at all. At first, of course, he will relax and do nothing. But over time, he will understand that he still needs to learn somehow and will slowly begin to organize himself. Of course, everything will not work out right away. But after a while he will do better and better.
6) You need to give rest
When a student comes home from school, he needs 1.5-2 hours to rest. At this time he can do his favorite things. There is a category of mothers and fathers who begin to press on their child as soon as he comes home.
Questions about grades, requests to show the diary and instructions to sit down for homework are pouring in. If you don't give your baby a rest, his concentration will be noticeably reduced. And in a tired state, he will begin to dislike school and everything connected with it even more.
7) Quarrels in the family
An unfavorable atmosphere at home is a serious obstacle to good grades. When in the family frequent quarrels and scandals, the child begins to worry, become nervous and withdrawn. Sometimes he even begins to blame himself for everything. As a result, all his thoughts are occupied with the current situation, and not with the desire to study.
8) Complexes
There are children with non-standard appearance or with not very well developed speech. They often receive a lot of ridicule. Therefore, they experience a lot of suffering and try to be invisible, avoiding answering at the board.
9) Bad company
Even in the first grade, some students manage to contact dysfunctional friends. If your friends do not want to study, then your child will support them in this.
10) Dependencies
Children, like adults, early age may have their own dependencies. IN primary school– these are games, entertainment with friends. At 9-12 years old - hobby computer games. In adolescence - bad habits and street company.
11) Hyperactivity
There are children with excess energy. They are characterized by poor perseverance and concentration. This makes it difficult for them to sit in class and listen without being distracted. And hence - bad behavior and even disrupted lessons. Such children need to attend additional sports sections. Detailed tips for this can be found in this article.
If you understand the reason correctly bad teaching at school, then we can assume that 50% of the problem has already been solved. In the future, it is necessary to develop an action plan, thanks to which it will be possible to encourage the student to study. Screams, scandals, swearing - it never worked. Understanding your child and helping him with the difficulties that arise is what will create the right motivation.
13 practical tips on how to motivate a student to get straight A's
- The first thing every parent should know is that the child needs to be praised for any of his successes.
Then he will naturally develop a desire to learn. Even if he doesn’t do something well enough yet, he still needs to be praised. After all, he almost completed the new task and put a lot of effort into it. This is a very important condition, without which it is impossible to force a child to learn. - Under no circumstances should you scold for mistakes, because you learn from mistakes.
If you scold a child for what he can’t do, then he will forever lose the desire to do it. Making mistakes is a natural process, even for adults. Children don't have that life experience and are just learning new tasks for themselves, so you need to be patient, and if something doesn’t work out for your child, it would be better to help him figure it out. - Don't give gifts for studying
Some adults, for motivation purposes, promise various gifts or monetary rewards to their children for good studies. There is no need to do this. Of course, at first the baby will gain incentive and begin to try hard in his studies, but over time he will begin to demand more and more. And small gifts will no longer satisfy him. In addition, studying is his daily obligatory actions and the child must understand this. Therefore, the issue of motivation will not be resolved in such ways in the long term. - You need to show your son or daughter the full degree of responsibility that lies in this activity - studying
To do this, explain why you need to study at all. Often children who are not particularly interested in learning do not understand why this is necessary. They have a lot of other interesting things to do, but school work gets in the way. - Sometimes parents demand too much from their children.
Nowadays the training program is several times more complicated than before. Moreover, if a child also goes to developmental clubs, then naturally overwork may occur. Don't demand your child to be perfect. It is quite natural that some subjects are more difficult for him, and it takes more time to understand them. - If any of the subjects is particularly difficult for your son or daughter, then a good solution would be to hire a tutor
- It is better to inculcate the habit of studying from the 1st grade
If a child in first grade learns to achieve his goals, complete assigned tasks, and for this he receives the praise and respect of adults, then he will no longer stray from this path. - Help us see positive changes
When your child succeeds in something very difficult, support him every time. Say phrases like: “Well, now you do it much better!” And if you continue in the same spirit, you will do absolutely great!” But never use: “Just try a little more and then you’ll be fine.” Thus, you do not recognize the child's small victories. It is very important to maintain it and notice the slightest changes. - Lead by example
Don't try to get your child to do his homework while you watch TV or relax in other ways. Children love to copy their parents. If you want your child to develop, for example, read books instead of messing around, do it yourself. - Support
If a student is facing a difficult test, support him. Tell him that you believe in him, that he will succeed. Moreover, if he tries hard, success is inevitable. You need to support him even when he completely fails at something. Many mothers and fathers prefer to reprimand in this case. It is better to reassure the child and tell him that next time he will definitely cope. You just need to put in a little more effort. - Share your experiences
Explain to your child that you cannot always do only what you want. Yes, I understand that you don’t like mathematics so much, but you need to study it. You will be able to bear it easier if you share it with your loved ones. - Point to good qualities baby
Even if these are so far from doing well at school, but the child’s positive qualities, such as the ability to help others, charm, and the ability to negotiate. This will help in creating adequate self-esteem and finding support within yourself. And normal self-esteem, in turn, will create confidence in your abilities. - Consider the wishes and aspirations of the child himself
If your child is interested in music or drawing, there is no need to force him to attend a math class. There is no need to break the child by saying that you know better. All children are different and each has their own talents and abilities. Even if you force a student to study a subject he does not like, he will not achieve much success in it. Because success is only where there is love for the work and interest in the process.
Is it worth forcing your child to study?
As you probably already understood from this article, forcing a child to learn by force is a useless exercise. This will only make things worse. It's better to create the right motivation. To create motivation, you need to understand why he needs it. What will he gain from his studies? For example, in the future he will be able to get the profession he dreams of. And without education, he will not have any profession at all and will not be able to earn a living.
When a student has a goal and an idea of why he should study, then desire and ambition appear.
And of course, you need to deal with the problems that prevent your child from becoming a successful student. There are no other ways to do this but talk to him and find out.
I hope these practical advice will help you improve your children's academic performance. If you still have questions, you can always contact us for help at online consultation with a psychologist. An experienced child psychologist will help you as much as possible. short time Find out all the reasons why the child experiences difficulties and reluctance to learn. Together with you, he will develop a work plan that will help your child get a taste for learning.
