A guy and a girl are alone in an apartment, the guy pesters the girl, she resists and says:
- Let's just remain friends.
- Okay, then let's go to the stall for vodka and pick up some girls for the evening.
Have you ever met girls who say, “Let's Stay Friends (DOD)”? ... Yes? Is it true? Personally, no one has ever told me. And why? Yes, because they DO NOT SAY THIS!!! They show this by their behavior. And I, as a not stupid person, am trying to get ahead of this “terrible phrase” of theirs.
I didn’t go far and decided to ask the girls themselves what DOD is and what do they eat it with?
What is DOD?
* DOD is a state when you don’t see a sexual partner in a person close to you “usually this means that you’re a good guy, but I won’t sleep with you, if you pronounce it exactly like that, this phrase (Julia, 24 years old).”
* This is the feeling that the person next to you is a sexless being, created for a shared, intimate pastime “if they say this after a relationship, it means people just want to separate peacefully, but, naturally, understanding that there will be no friendship as such (Yulia, 18 years old).”
* DOD is when, instead of kissing when they meet, they turn their cheek, they refuse an invitation to the cinema, because the second cousin of my mother’s grandmother’s cousin broke his leg and lies in the crematorium, but when they need to cry, they immediately run to blow their nose in your vest...
* “well, it’s just... I think... that a friend... is, so to speak, the first person to whom I can come with my problem, misfortune... and this will not mean “cry”.... for me this will mean speaking out and listening to smart advice (Zhenya, 16 years old)"
In general, DOD is when they hint to you in a mild form - “Boy, wouldn’t you go to the farm to catch butterflies”? And don’t let the mild form of this technique fool you into sending you away. In most cases, they are not worried about your mental state, but about their own well-being - roughly speaking, they do not want to create problems with you in the form of showdowns and showdowns. Or they think that, as a friend, they can get more from you and give you less. Like - “Be a friend - wash my socks.” ...
Where and why does DOD come from?
Why? Yes, because your dreams didn’t come true, that you’re cool, but you’re not a prince and that’s it. “Well, when interest in a person disappears, but there is no visible reason for separation, the following phrase is usually said (Yulia, 18 years old).” It’s nice to talk to you and meet, but... You don’t meet any selection criteria. Every woman dreams of finding a man who is confident in himself so that he can feel “like behind a stone wall.” She wants to find a partner who will satisfy her not only physically, but also spiritually. Who will not pay attention to other girls, who will love her children (when they appear), who will be the master of the situation. And if he doesn’t pass, according to some criteria, but you like him as a person, then treat him as a friend.
“why... how the hell do I know... maybe because something didn’t suit you... or maybe you get tired of a person, as if you were your passion, but at the same time you don’t want to lose him completely... because a good person... (Zhenya, 16 years old)."
Let's analyze what Zhenya said. Despite such a young age, she already understands that some guys should not be sent away, even if there is no desire to keep them closer. In general, you are a good person, or rather a smart one. And it’s better to keep burdock at a distance. On the one hand, you don’t owe him anything, but on the other, he’s always at hand, just whistle.
What is really hidden under the words "Let's remain friends."
“It’s hidden... you don’t excite me, but I don’t want to lose you... we’ll play “closer and further” until we get tired of it (Svetlana, 27 years old).” What should I say. At least honestly. Respect to Svetlana.
Needless to say, there are many examples of why a girl does not allow a boy near her body, but at the same time keeps him with her “if a guy offers to move on to a closer relationship, but you don’t want to, then that’s what I usually tell him, or we remain friends or not at all. (Julia, 24 years old)." And here the question arises: is friendship between a guy and a girl even possible? It’s possible, I’ll say, and I’ll get better a little - possible, until the first sperm toxicosis. Well, who can blame a girl for not kissing you on the first date? Who can blame her for not allowing her to hold her boobs during the second one? Who can say anything against the fact that she didn’t give on the third date? “I met a guy, but he is neither fish nor fowl, I already took the initiative into my own hands (I liked the boy) but he is not breakable (Alexandra, 25 years old)”
I will reproach, I will say against, because... it's unnatural. No, I’m not saying that on the third she is obligated to give (maybe she’s on her period), but she shouldn’t feel that you, dear friend, are a vest for snot. You are a man! Show her right away that you are a man, and not an errand boy... Just don’t overdo it, there’s no need for pompousness either, just show her what you really want. There is no need to shout at every corner that you coveted that woman with huge tits, just go up to her and say: - Good afternoon girl, you have such luxurious breasts that you want to touch them, and touch them! “You’re so funny =)) (Ksenia 21 years old)” Stop... Take two... I said touch her, don’t grab her. Where am I leading with this? Yes, besides, you need to overcome the feeling of “respect” for the girl. There is you, there is her, you both want sex, why come up with a dildo when you can come up with a bunch of ways to get her into bed. Every girl has it ingrained in the depths of her brain that she must give herself. This is an indisputable fact: “When meeting a guy, I look at whether he can give me pleasure (satisfy - my note) or not (Oksana, 29 years old).” Sometimes you look into her eyes and see the inscription: “Don’t fuck with friends.” But everything could have been different. After all, he could have answered differently, he could have touched once instead of a hundred words spoken, he could have kissed him goodbye on the lips, and not pecked him on the cheek... He could have forgotten about SMS and called... He could have, but he didn’t...
Way out of the situation with the code name "DOD"
Okay, I got distracted. So here it is. You've been dating a girl for, well, let's say, a year. During this time, you only had hugs at dances, rare stolen kisses, walks holding the hand, and throwing pebbles into the lake. what to do? I want to fuck! This is what you are reading now. There are many methods for getting out of a DOD situation. But any of them requires some effort from you. What do you need to do? You need to make the girl become attracted to you, and to do this, you need to show her how awesome you are. No, don’t run to her, run not to her, but to other young ladies. Seduce them. Show yours that you are just a super man. Show up where she happens to be with different women, show tenderness and affection to her friends, and hammer a big, thick wedge on her... for a while... no, don’t disappear, just don’t show much interest in her. Let's say you are holding hands in the park, she meets a friend, and YOU start flirting with her friend in front of her eyes. But just flirt, be careful not to go too far.
When you see that your beloved is already beginning to tear out her hair from jealousy, then the time for decisive action comes. Ready? Did you wrap the snot off your fist and throw it in the trash? Fucked 10 women? Is everyone ready for work and defense? Then read on. You disappear from her visibility zone for a week, it’s no longer worth it - you’ll lose interest, but less is not advisable either - you’ll get bored and won’t have time. A week later you CALL her and invite her on a DATE, not to the cinema, not for a walk. Immediately confront her with a fact. Today we have a date with all the ensuing (as long as it’s not dripping =)) consequences (straight to the point! approx. Head of Ed. HoLoD). Don’t break down, don’t reinvent the wheel, just say: “dear, I want to invite you on a date, we’ll meet there and there at such and such a time.” When you meet, you simply have to kiss her on the lips. If he doesn’t want to, you can say something like “you still don’t understand anything,” and then turn around and leave. Must surrender! If she doesn’t care, then send her to the garden with peace of mind, she’s not for you. And generally speaking. THE MAIN MAIN thing is not to be afraid of losing one girl, if you dig deeper, there are more of them in the world than men, you can always find yourself better, smarter, more beautiful, more relaxed. Kissed? BABY! the first step has been taken. The main thing is not to slow down further.
Before your date, have you mapped out the places YOU will go? So take her there. Where there is soft music, a romantic mood, wonderful champagne and a soft bed... Oops, what am I talking about? It's too early to go home. Anywhere, as long as she found it interesting. Don't let her get bored for a second. There must be constant kinesthetics on your part: he held your hand, slapped you on the butt, laughed and touched your shoulder with your forehead, kissed your hair, took your hand and pulled you somewhere like, “Look! Our reflection in the store window, you and I look great.” ". Wherever you go, try to see how she reacted to your touch. Did not like? Fix it. Liked? Repeat a little later. And so the whole date. If you can’t throw a big blowout, throw a bunch of small ones. The girl should see you from a different angle. You are no longer a boy, you are an interesting person! “And how come I didn’t immediately notice so many charms in him!” When you bring her home in the evening, I am sure that she will let you hug her waist... well... did you want to ruin everything? Stand not at the pioneer distance, but much closer. Hug her so that she clings to you with her whole body. You can whisper in her ear in this position, or you can kiss her right away. No, not peck into the lips, but suck it in. Resists? Ignore. Press on the fact that you deserved a kiss, she had a great time, so why spoil the day with some kind of conventions...
How to correctly offer DOD yourself
“to say that you adore him (her) as a person, but you don’t want anything more, so DOOOOOOOOOOO (Julia, 18 years old)”
“What’s the right way? I think there is no special algorithm here, you can’t prepare words in advance. For example, I always improvise, I act depending on my mood and situation (Yulia, 24 years old)”
“dear boy, I appreciate you very much, but let’s leave our relationship at the current level (Svetlana, 27 years old)”
“I’ll just say - you don’t want me, so I’ll find myself another male, call me and we’ll go to the cinema at our leisure (Oksana, 29 years old)”
“I’ve never suggested it and I hope I won’t have to (Ksenia, 21 years old)”
Well, brother in arms. Shall we end on this sad note? But no. We will say in unison “what the hell is needed” and behave with dignity. After all, no one will blame us for regaining what may rightfully belong to us. What has floated away from us is only due to our stupidity and inexperience. The woman who might be your ideal partner. The one that makes life seem like a fairy tale!
Good luck to you in your difficult endeavor!
Anyone who has heard these simple and at the same time great words at least once in their life knows that in comparison with them, a blow to the balls, delivered powerfully and efficiently, may seem like an insignificant event in the life of a young neighbor below.
First, let's agree on two things. First: we will replace the phrase “let’s remain friends” with DOD - this is the custom in our environment. Second: we will distinguish between initial and final DOD.
Initial is when you and the girl from the very beginning have developed more of a friendship than any other relationship. And of course, at some point you want to transfer them to the horizontal plane, otherwise why would you read this article, right?
The final one is when another relationship was maintained (or planned) with a girl for some time, but the result was still DOD. However, you somehow don’t want to agree to him or end this relationship, right?
Initial DOD
There is a girl with whom you have, in general, a good relationship. You communicate, meet, chat about this and that... She considers you a close (to one degree or another) person, she is ready to spend some time with you, she knows that she can count on your help, she even from time to time spends time franking with you, sharing her experiences, crying into your vest, but she has no thought about being in the same bed with you. “You’re nice, but I won’t sleep with you” - something like that.
“DOD means that you will still have to do everything that you had to do before, but they will no longer sleep with you.”
Why does this happen? Simply because you behaved wrong from the very beginning. You showed yourself as a friend, not as a man. You were understanding and kind, sweet and nice, you could have fun with you, chat about anything or even be frank about some topic, but you did not evoke sexual desires. You were a good friend, a free psychologist, a sexless vest in which you could always cry. It's not every day you find one like this! In the end, there are most likely a lot of people who want to sleep with this girl, but there are not many people like you who are ready to help her for free, selflessly cover her if necessary, listen to her whims and crybabies. So which category will she put you in?
No, of course, the girl doesn’t want to lose you. She likes to communicate with you, she in some sense appreciates you (if it makes you feel better), and she will even be sorry to part with you. But think about it - are you satisfied with this state of affairs? If “yes,” then close this article and don’t read further. She's not for you.
Final DOD
You dated for a while, and it even seemed to you that everything was great with you. But suddenly the girl announces to you the DOD.
“DOD means you can’t demand sex, but sometimes you will get fucked even when you don’t want it.”
Those. it seems to you that “suddenly”. Because in reality, girls don’t break up just like that. They most often do not have spontaneous decisions (like us), when they suddenly decide and want to stop everything. Usually they endure for a long time, even if something doesn’t suit them, they hope that you yourself will understand - and either improve or leave her. And only when everything has already been decided, when she is completely tired of it all or something better has appeared on the horizon, then she will come to you and say something ordinary and everyday, like: “I don’t think we should continue further.” "
And that's enough for her. She is no longer interested in all your suffering and snot, even if they sympathize with you or cry for show. It is WHEN THEY LEAVE THEM, girls are able to sincerely and reverently say a lot of heartfelt and beautiful words, believe in them, cry, suffer... If they themselves have firmly decided to leave, then they do it easily and without thinking, as if a pebble had gurgled into the water - and he is not there. She said a few words and left.
“DOD means that they will tell you about all the former, current and future ones. But you couldn’t - it’s bad manners.”
Why is this happening? Why is it that DOD is most often announced to us by those who are most dear to us? Of course, the reasons may be different and there are dozens, if not hundreds, of options. But still, the most common answer is contained in the question itself. Read it again.
Yes, the whole point is that you have overestimated the importance of this very individual girl. That you are driven by emotions, not you by them. After all, the people who most often end up in the DOD are those who really dote on a girl, who are shaking over her and are afraid of losing her, who surround her with so much attention and care that she already loses interest in them.
On the other hand, if she doesn’t want to part with you at all, it means she still needs you for something. Perhaps she is not yet sure what awaits her on the side, and therefore is keeping you in reserve. Perhaps she likes to communicate with you as a person and receive some resources from you, and she wants to maintain this, even after ceasing to be your girlfriend. Or perhaps she just doesn’t want to upset you with a complete and final break in your relationship, and that’s why she offers you friendship (knowing well that there won’t really be any friendship).
Techniques for exiting DOD
Some of them are described in detail in the cookbook or in the book “200% Effective Seduction.” But it’s advisable to know them BEFORE the DOD is announced to you. I will describe one such method here:
“DOD - and you will always drive, pick up, help, cover, help out, come at the first call. It’s unclear why and what I’m hoping for.”
A long but very effective option. Based on the “Closer-Farther” technique. It is not recommended for pioneers and other inexperienced people.
After the girl has told you DOD, try to agree to a friendly relationship, but there is only one very important point - you need to make it clear that you REALLY want such a relationship (if you are not capable of this, it is better to break up immediately). After this, any of your invitations and outings will be perceived only from the point of view of friendship, which will only benefit you at this stage. We will continue to be friends, but active friends.
It will be very beneficial to share with her any interests or hobbies that her current boyfriend, if he exists, cannot share. This interest can be anything: studying, walking around the city, repairing her car, upgrading her computer, walking the dogs together, going to the gym (clubs, parties).
Just under no circumstances should you spend a lot of money on her so that she does not give you the role of a reliable sponsor that she so desires. It’s better to let her know that you have money, and you would be very happy to waste it for the sake of your girlfriend. The reception is very strong, it is very bitter to realize that all women are corrupt, albeit in the best sense of the word.
“DOD - and maybe they’ll treat you kindly when it’s unbearably boring. And they will call when no one else is at hand. And you will come! You’re a friend and everything happened between you, you understand everything.”
It is very advisable to give her compliments when meeting, but without any hint of eroticism. The most important strategic task for you now is to get CLOSER on her part. As soon as you feel feedback, friendly sympathy in your direction, this stage can be completed. The most eloquent sign of this will be the invitations and calls that the girl will make on her own initiative. You must definitely remember that your friendly communication should be vibrant, and the girl should be comfortable and fun with you. Imagine going on dates the same way, only with a minimum of physical contact and without any hint of “pink snot.” The more pleasant your company is to the girl, the faster the necessary affection will arise.
It is not advisable to stretch this stage too long; usually a month is enough; further progress in this state can lead to you becoming an open book for your “friend.” There is nothing worse than being predictable and understandable for a girl - there should always be intrigue.
And finally, the girl calls you, invites you somewhere, maybe even kisses you on the cheek when saying goodbye, in general, you observe her CLOSER in relation to you. So it's time to leave. You completely disappear from her horizons, disappear for a week or a week and a half, she should not see you, hear you, or know about what is happening to you. At the same time, the optimal moment for leaving will be the time when she has no special plans, that is, she is not going anywhere, there is no active rest, so memories of a good friend will come much more often and she will miss you, because she is attached to you.
“DOD - and you are on a par with her favorite ficus, cat or teddy bear”
And at the most crucial moment you put yourself in order and come out of the shadows. The best option would be to be at her door with a flower in her teeth (in her hands), grab her hand and run to blow the roof off. When appearing, under no circumstances should you apologize for your long absence, except to quickly let it slip as if it were something not particularly significant, and then immediately hush up the conversation. You are leading her to pleasure, your time should be very pleasant, your goal is to take her into space, and the closer she is to space, the better.
At the same time, an unobtrusive increase in physical contact plays into your hands. The girl’s feelings overlap each other. Boredom BEFORE you and your sudden appearance, blowing the roof away, a pleasant pastime plus constant, developing, but careful touches (who doesn’t like them?) bring her into a very resourceful state, which you should use. The final break in the pattern should be a kiss, which simply must take place when it becomes clear that she is ready for this. Most often, the girl doesn’t even have time to figure out what’s happening before she ends up in your bed.
“DOD – and you’ll be lucky if you never see who you were traded for. But you'll see. After all, you are friends"
I repeat once again - this method is intended only for experienced people with a cool head and sober calculations. For pioneers with a strong emotional attachment, a girl will not bring anything good except extra snot. I would advise them, first of all, to disappear from the girl’s field of vision (required!), turn on complete ignore, then actively take care of themselves, raising their level and, having recovered from emotional dependence, having upgraded enough, you can try to return and start all over again from scratch. If you are sure that you have enough strength.
If you are afraid of losing her, if you continue to dream about her and shake your snot on your fist at the memories of your “relationship” (which, perhaps, did not exist, and only you considered them such), if you are even ready to agree to DOD, just to be with her, then you’re either a wimp or you simply DON’T KNOW WHAT’S WAITING FOR YOU.
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Having heard a terrible phrase from a man, let’s remain friends, do not rush to get upset and look for shortcomings in yourself. Try to figure out on your own why your lover behaved this way, and whether there is a chance of returning him.
In very, very rare cases, the status of “just friends” can be the beginning of a romantic relationship. Such a development of events is possible when he is drawn specifically to you, but he is simply not ready for a sudden romance. This happens when people who have just gotten out of a negative relationship are not in the mood to start a new relationship.
What does the phrase “Let's remain friends” mean?
In any case, the phrase “Let's remain friends” means that in general you are a good person, but not so interesting as to move in the same direction with you further. Or he seems to love you, but wants to maintain a long-distance relationship. Mostly these people have an ex-girlfriend who moved on in the past, but he still hopes for a reunion.
The phrase “let’s remain friends” often needs to be understood as: “You are valuable to me, but only as a backup option.”
Therefore, you need to refuse such an offer. Never waste your precious time on a person who is trying to bench you.
Why should you say a firm “No” to his offer to remain friends?
We women are more mobile, and above all, we value care and personal qualities. At least that's how it should be. But men need, first of all, a beautiful picture, and then a rich inner world, status, intelligence, talent and other paraphernalia.
When you hear the offensive phrase “let’s remain friends” addressed to you, do not try with all your might to prove that you can live up to his ideal. After all, it is unknown what image is drawn in the man’s head. This frame is simply trying to find a girl without whom life will lose all meaning, and this is a normal phenomenon. Just tell him thank you for being honest and not wasting your time, and you can now move on.
After all, many guys still continue the relationship without trying to transform the status into just friends, and at this moment they look for a better option on the side, and then leave without explanation.
And the worst mistake is that a woman is afraid to be left alone and begins to speculate on intimacy, trying to tie her beloved to her child. But after a certain time, this glue does not help. This is how a huge number of mothers appear who raise their children without a father.
Why did the man say: “let’s remain friends”?
- It often happens that the desire for freedom overrides the determination to get involved headlong in a love story. If your chosen one offers to wait, do not settle for just friendship, but pretend that you have completely forgotten about his existence.
- You merge with the general gray mass of other female representatives. In this case, the offer to remain friends is based only on a feeling of pity or indecision to end a relationship that will lead nowhere.
- MCH could have suffered from previous failed love affairs. As a result, negative experiences require a more meaningful approach to a new connection.
- You turned out to be not that good.
- Girls most often care excessively about their loved one, completely forgetting about themselves. But love for one’s own person presupposes constant care for one’s appearance, and also provokes the desire to realize oneself professionally or creatively.
- You probably often make scenes of jealousy and simply demonstrate your distrust.
Seeing a sad guy, it is often not difficult to guess the reason for his upset - the girl he loved said let’s remain friends. Men of any age, who have little experience communicating with the opposite sex, who have not yet learned to understand women, often react to this phrase with total depression: they go on a binge, cry into their pillows, complain to friends and relatives, try to get their beloved back, etc. The phrase “let’s remain friends” is perceived as nothing less than a catastrophe on a universal scale. Although, if you think about it, nothing terrible actually happened AT ALL. Below I will talk about how to easily and simply survive the DOD (let's remain friends) and start living a full, cheerful life a couple of hours or, at most, days, after this phrase.
The girl said let's remain friends. What to do
If the girl said let's remain friends, you don't need to panic. This is a familiar phenomenon in pickup trucks. Conventionally, it is called “The Girl Announced DOD.” Believe me, this will happen more than once in your life, but after reading this article, you will be ready for it.
If a girl told you “let’s remain friends”, this means that she is no longer attracted to you as a sexual partner or she did not consider you as such at all. It is important to understand this information in this way and accept it courageously. It is clear that this is painful and unpleasant, but the bitter truth is always better than a sweet lie - remember this.
The second thing you need to accept is that you won’t be able to get her back. Not because it’s unrealistic, it’s just that if she left you once, she’ll leave you again or will manipulate you all your life, and this is humiliating and wrong.
Third, your brain is now inadequate. He is feverishly looking for reasons why his beloved left you, and options for how to get her back. If you don’t find a reason, don’t try in vain. She may tell you that she doesn’t feel a spark between you and you will try to ignite this spark, when in reality she has just been sleeping for a week with another man who she likes much more.
Why can't you get your ex back?
The option of returning her should not be considered at all. Firstly, it is humiliating and unworthy of a normal man. Secondly, now it will cost you a lot of time, resources and nerves, and all for what? So that she snorts and turns her nose? Usually guys try to get a girl back - they spend a lot of money, don't sleep at night - but they still can't get her back. Simply because she fell in love with another man. Then the guy, after some time, usually calms down and realizes that getting her back is unrealistic and begins to live his own life. So isn’t it easier to skip all this suffering and waste of resources and immediately start living normally, burning off energy in another, more useful way, for example, through sports. It is a mistake to think that your situation is unique and that the woman is the only one. Believe me, every man is convinced of this after breaking up with a girl, if he has little experience communicating with women.
Practice shows that some guys, spending a lot of resources, get their exes back after other men. Or they themselves then return, because their lover abandoned them or something didn’t work out. Some ask for forgiveness in tears, others, on the contrary, return as if they are doing you a favor (especially if the guy did not stop trying to get her back). But all the same, such couples then break up and do not last long, since the guy realizes (if not immediately, then over time) that he was betrayed, traded, and returned purely because he is a spare and convenient option. This is humiliating for a man. It is better to endure pain once than to feel humiliated all your life and allow yourself to be pushed around.
What exactly to do if a girl declares DOD
If a girl told you let's remain friends, you should do only two things: urgently, and start meeting other women. This is enough to overcome your attachment to your ex, at least the first symptoms of it, in just a couple of hours. Stay at home and load up, go to the bar, cry to friends, etc. Absolutely forbidden! This will only make your already bad mood worse.
If you have been declared a DOD, urgently go and meet 3-5 other girls. It is optimal to make 10 approaches to strangers. It’s better not to concentrate on one right now - after the breakup, she will seem worse than her ex. Try to meet many people at once. The first 2-3 approaches may be difficult for you - approach with strength. A break with the woman you love is a situation that gives a lot of energy. Use it correctly - step over your fear and reluctance to meet others, and seduce other women.
The second is sports. Work out in the gym for at least 2 hours every day. You can go to football or do long distance running. But it’s even better to take up boxing or wrestling - there you’ll quickly knock all the crap out of yourself.
If you start actively meeting girls, doing at least 5-10 approaches a day, you will forget your ex - if not in a couple of hours, then in a week for sure. Not in the sense that you will no longer remember who she is and what you had with her, but your feelings for her will cool down and you will begin to treat her as an ordinary girl. Many guys don’t want this, because they are overwhelmed by the heady feeling of love and are warmed by the hope of returning their beloved. But remember that one feeling is always replaced by another, so intoxicating love is guaranteed to you in any case, only with another, better girl.
- No alcohol. Drinking, even in moderation, only increases suffering and provokes you to act inappropriately. Soothe the internal discomfort from the breakup with sports and sex with other women;
- Other girls. Don’t immediately look for your next lifelong friend after breaking up with your loved one. Now your task is to drown out your feelings with sex. Just fuck for your own pleasure with many women - with all those who fall for you and you more or less like. Enjoy your freedom - no serious relationships;
- No suffering. The ex is not the best and not the only one. An ordinary girl, in some ways worse than many others. Remember how you treated her before you met. What has changed since then? Did she give it to you and was gentle, did she say words of love? And the other one may well do this. Moreover, she may have a sexier figure and cook better. A new partner is always better than the previous one - this is an axiom. Otherwise, after a breakup, people would never build relationships with anyone again.
Don’t worry, you will also have a beautiful woman, happy love, a family life, and stability. You just need to make an effort and all this can happen in a couple of days. Or years - if you continue to kiss your ex. There are actually very, very many good girls. In your city, on your street, dozens of them walk every day. Start meeting other girls, do it a lot and often, and you will see that there are many pretty young ladies around, much better than your ex, who will appreciate you much more than she does.
